You're not behind in life. There's no timetable that we all must follow it's made up. 7billion people can't do everything in the same order. What's early? What's late? Compared to who? Don't beat yourself up for where you are! It's your schedule and everything is right on time
if you choose A WORKING WOMAN, you must accept that she CANNOT manage a house full time by herself. if you choose A HOUSEWIFE who can take care of and manage the household completely, you need to accept that she DOES NOT MAKE MONEY and you will have to provide for everything. if you choose a SUBMISSIVE WOMAN, you should accept that she DEPENDS on you to lead. if you choose to be with a STRONG WOMAN, you should accept that she is STUBBORN and has her own thoughts and ways
People lack accountability, then be like "You could've just talked to me". No, I couldn't. You don't listen. You deflect. You gaslight. You make me feel like i'm the problem for bringing it up. So no, i stayed silent to protect my peace, not because I didn't want to fix.
1/3 I heard someone share on IG yesterday about the nothing phase, the one where you're doing everything right. You're networking, you're showing up, you're pitching, you're praying and still, nothing. Rejection after rejection.
We should talk about that more.
Please don't be the person who purports to fight for women & children's rights when back at home you're thumping your woman & treating your children like slaves. Don't be that person, please. Let's try to walk the talk. Protect women & children both online and offline.
The same inferiority complex and struggling cognition that makes you think a doctor should not be questioned or held accountable is why a random white woman like Renee Bach could come to Uganda, say she is a doctor and proceed to kill many children through misdiagnosis!
on TL doctors:
the fact that you went to medical school doesn't make your public opinions unquestionable. your expertise is respected, but in a world where access to information is widespread, it cannot be the final word
we live in a time where disciplines are interconnected, where someone from another field might have read the same research, or bring insight from lived experience that your training hasn't prepared you for
we must let go of the idea that certain types of knowledge can only belong to an "elite few"
in response to Dr Solomon Kimera, many women have pushed back on his bad joke—not as scientists, but as people who live in their bodies. and that matters
lived experience is not a substitute for clinical training, but it is a valid form of knowledge. knowing their body, their cycles, their health history, their fertility choices—these are not trivial
they are not inferior to textbook understanding. they are parallel truths that deserve to be heard, especially when the topic is so personal and intimate
this is where humility must enter professional spaces
expertise is not only found in peer-reviewed journals; it is also found in pain thresholds, in trauma survived, in years of managing chronic conditions, in knowing when something feels off in your own body long before a scan confirms it
a good doctor gains more insight listening to a patient who has battled an illness more than any textbook will ever teach
and now, in an era where AI models can pass medical board tests, the line between possession of information and the authority to use it is thinner than ever
while AI doesn't replace medical practitioners, it does prove something important: information is no longer gated
the privilege, then, lies not in knowing, but in practicing. in being there when theory meets consequence. in standing accountable when outcomes are uncertain
so yes, pride yourself on your clinical practice—the ward rounds, the call shifts, the real-world messiness that a Google search can't prepare anyone for. that practice is sacred, and it should be defended
but don't use it to silence people. use it to serve
because when people speak about their bodies, their freedoms, their lived truths—they're not trying to compete with your expertise
they're trying to complement it. they're asking to be seen, not diagnosed
and in that moment, what's needed is not just exceptional brilliance, but empathy
adios 👋