We need a bit more shame.
People used to avoid certain self-interested behaviors to avoid shame, private and public. Law and customs assumed this.
Now, 38% of Stanford students claim to be disabled. 40% of young women (under 35) claim mental illness, and SSI disability payments have gone up 400% in a single generation.
It isn't good for anyone, least of all people who are actually disabled, when everyone looks the other way as friends and family and peers con the system with a level of shamelessness no architect of our safety net ever imagined could be possible in America. When everyone is disabled, nobody is.
seeing my sister in my early 20’s:
fuck u
no fuck you
no fuck you
no fuck you
no fuck you
etc…
seeing my sister in my 30’s:
you look like mom
no you look like mom
no you look like mom
no you look like mom
ok but u act like dad
@somewheresy there are a pretty quickly growing number of concert content artists building generative systems and using them (probably more than they should, definitely more than necessary)
I reckon I was about 30 when I realized that doing the shit I didn't enjoy was non-negotiable for a successful life outcome.
At some point, doing those things (like making your bed in the morning) becomes just something you do because you're a grownup and it's just the cost of doing business. It also took some of the pain out of them.
I imagine there are people who genuinely enjoy making their bed. That's hugely unfair to those with ADHD, but if the option is to not make your bed, suck it up and do it anyway.
It's still your bed, you gotta lie in it. It'll be small consolation when it's lumpy and you tell yourself you just weren't wired for it.
And now, back to cleaning my shop.... sigh.
It actually makes me viscerally angry now when upper middle class kids who went to private school wook out in their career formative years and end up becoming downwardly economically mobile. Like bro what a waste of money