Smol Bean Gesserit

Alex / social scientist in training @UCSF/ critical neurodiversity, med-soc/anthro, (bio)politics, philosophy, STS, everything else

[Smol Bean Gesserit @mimeticmagic]

@elaifresh This makes sense, especially re: easier digestion

[Smol Bean Gesserit @mimeticmagic]

@Etanarachel I’ve experienced both too. I was yelled at by men for being annoying / a nuisance for speaking my mind. I was called ugly or weird. Very common experiences for girls on the spectrum.

[Smol Bean Gesserit @mimeticmagic]

I feel like anyone who wouldn’t see that as equivalent sexism is not an ally to women and doesn’t know what sexism is. There is no “right” kind of harassment. Some just has a more sexual bent - but that can have more to do with being vunerable, not knowing how to tell others whats happening, being an easy target to exert power over- than like looks alone.

[Smol Bean Gesserit @mimeticmagic]

Yah I mean you have every right to label it as you see fit. It’s complicated when it’s child on child. But I do think you being a girl and also having an experience like that is significant re: the point that so many girls do have experiences of sexual harassment and assault, even if they themselves don’t call it that but doctors / psychs / child specialists would.

[Smol Bean Gesserit @mimeticmagic]

Yah I think how much parental oversight you have can be a protective or detrimental factor. My parents basically neglected me from 13 on. They saw nothing wrong with my middle school teacher coming over to my house, taking me out, pulling me out of my other classes, having me spend weeks with him while he was working on a play, etc. Like they were willfully oblivious.

[Smol Bean Gesserit @mimeticmagic]

I can not stress enough how bad this can get for young autistic girls. It’s hard enough for neurotypical kids to notice something is off with how they’re being treated. I didn’t realize my middle school teacher groomed me until I was 19. I knew things were weird but I was convinced he was a friend and looking out for me. That very clearly wasn’t the case and other people, like my male friend who also had weird experiences with him, had to explain to me how bad this actually was.

[Smol Bean Gesserit @mimeticmagic]

I have to disagree. It really was constant, but I think it depends on where you live. I was getting catcalled by grown men in cars at age 10 when I would walk to the bookstore.

When I was 13, at that bookstore, a man took upskirt photos of me while sitting across from me at a table. I didn’t notice because I was engrossed in my book, but another boy did, told me, I told the employees I knew, and he got chased out of the bookstore.

My middle school English teacher basically groomed me for a year, weasled his way into being a family friend, pulled me out of other classes to just have me sit with him while he was teaching and make me feel special, spent a lot of time with me outside of school, and told me he could have sex with me if he wanted (luckily he didn’t). These are actually the very mild things that happened and it kind of just got worse from there.

[Smol Bean Gesserit @mimeticmagic]

@Etanarachel Oh like Mel Baggs

[Smol Bean Gesserit @mimeticmagic]

@Etanarachel Oh my god, she brands herself as the antifeminist psychiatrist. I am vindicated in not trusting her before I even looked at her profile.

[Smol Bean Gesserit @mimeticmagic]

@Etanarachel Also I just don’t trust influencer MDs either lol

[Smol Bean Gesserit @mimeticmagic]

@Etanarachel I say this as someone who actually got caught up in this sphere and it made my life, view of people who have harmed me, and mental health legitimately worse.

[Smol Bean Gesserit @mimeticmagic]

@Etanarachel There’s also money to be made if you brand yourself as a “narcissism expert” or a “healing from narcissistic abuse” influencer, which is another reason I don’t trust them.

[Etana @Etanarachel]

There's a bunch of problems here. One of them is that the rise in autism cases DID trigger a pandemic level outcry in the 2000s. Another is that Kanner's cases, were not necessarily the most severe or even nonverbal. And it ignores that Aspergers was discovered first.

[Smol Bean Gesserit @mimeticmagic]

@MrsJellySantos This is literally what my Lebanese aunts in Beirut are like

[Christianity On The Spectrum @ChristianityOn]

this is a one way ticket to developing a substance abuse problem, do not get on this train

[Sara Luterman @slooterman]

@ChristianityOn Probably a good time to mention that we are more prone to SUD and this is thing we have known about for over a decade. https://t.co/Qe7cbyHGow

[Smol Bean Gesserit @mimeticmagic]

@202accepted This is one of my intrusive fears and why I don’t stand anywhere near the tracks and keep my back to a wall.

[Smol Bean Gesserit @mimeticmagic]

@abookofsymbols I think the fear of being seen as playing the victim intersects with fear of pity in a kind of dialectical way. They feed into and bounce off eachother. Both revolve around how one is perceived morally and how one’s agency is recognized (or denied).