I used to think Eid al-Adha was simply about sacrifice.
About Ibrahim.
About Ismail.
About qurban.
But the older I get, the more I realize it was never only about that.
Then one day I came across a line that stayed with me ever since:
Bir hocam şöyle söylemişti: “Sûreler bir insanın ihtiyaçlarına göre indirilen 114 ilahî müdahaledir” Yani insan hangi sıkıntıya düşmüşse, onun ilacı Kur’an’da vardır. Bu sözün ışığında, 114 sûrenin hangi hâlde, hangi ihtiyaçta okunması gerektiğini derledim. Umarım faydalı olur.
Eskiden çok kitap okursam her şeyi çözeceğimi, zihnimin berraklaşacağını düşünürdüm. Gecelerce okur, notlar alırdım. Ama zihnimdeki karmaşa hiç bitmedi; ta ki İmam Gazali’nin bilgiyi 'istiflemek' ile 'hazmetmek' arasındaki o ince çizgiyi nasıl çizdiğini görene kadar. +
Okuduğun her kitapta, her makalede kendin için bir "şifa" ara. Eğer o kitap senin bir yaranı tedavi etmiyorsa, sen sadece bir eczanede ilaçların isimlerini ve fiyatlarını ezberleyen bir çıraksın demektir. İsimleri ezberlemeyi bırak, sana iyi gelecek ilacı içmeye başla.
Gazali'nin "İhya" projesi aslında devasa bir zihin detoksudur. İnsanı dışarıdan içeriye, eşyadan manaya çekmeyi hedefler. Okuduğunuz her şey sizi dünyevi bir hırsa sevk ediyorsa istifliyorsunuzdur; sizi kendi iç dünyanıza yolculuğa çıkarıyorsa hazmediyorsunuzdur.
Bugün bilgi oburu olduk ama hikmet fukarasıyız. Kaydedilen binlerce PDF, kütüphaneleri süsleyen ama ruhumuza değmeyen ciltler... Gazali bize şunu fısıldıyor: Az oku ama üzerinde çok derinleş. Zira sindirilemeyen bilgi, tıpkı sindirilemeyen yemek gibi bünyeyi zehirler.
The user of this account is dead. Please recite and repost the following Du’a so it may serve as Sadaqatul Jariya for him. Allah Yayi ma Rahma Abdulrahim🤲🏻
TIME IS NOT TREATED THE SAME EVERYWHERE:
1. Germany: Being late is disrespectful. Meetings start to the second. Punctuality here is not a habit. It is a moral standard.
2. Brazil: An invitation for seven means nine. Relationships matter more than schedules. Rigidity kills the atmosphere.
3. Japan: Trains run to the minute. A sixty second delay comes with a formal public apology. Time is a system. The system is everything.
4. India: Events begin when people arrive. The gathering defines the time. Presence matters more than precision.
5. Polynesian cultures: Time was tied to stars, seasons, and the ocean. Circular, not linear. The clock came later and from somewhere else.
6. United States: Time is money. Literally. Every hour is billable. Every minute is scheduled. Rest has to earn its place.
7. Spain: Lunch at three. Dinner at ten. The day bends around the person. Not the other way around.
8. Ethiopia: A different calendar entirely. Thirteen months. New Year in September. A different year than the rest of the world. Time here is a cultural choice, not a global agreement.
9. France: August belongs to rest. Emails go unanswered. Shops close. Nobody apologizes for this. Leisure is a right, not a reward.
10. Kenya: The clock starts at sunrise. Six in the morning is hour zero. Noon is hour six. Time is built around light, not an arbitrary number on a wall.
11. China: One time zone for the entire country. A landmass that should span five. In the far west the sun rises at ten in the morning. Unity was chosen over accuracy.
12.Australia: Aboriginal communities have always read time through seasons, animal movements, and the stars above. For over sixty thousand years the land itself served as the calendar. No clock was ever needed. Nature told them everything.
13. Mexico: Mañana means not right now. Urgency is often self-imposed. The present moment has its own demands and they are considered legitimate.
14. Greece: A guest arrives at any hour. You welcome them fully. The clock adjusts to the person. The person never adjusts to the clock.
15. Scandinavia: Months of darkness then months of endless light. The body follows seasons, not schedules. This is ancient. Science is only now catching up.
16. Nigeria: Start times are a suggestion. What matters is that everyone arrives, connects, and the evening becomes what it was meant to be. The experience always outranks the schedule.
17. Indonesia: Jam karet. Rubber time. Time stretches around mood, traffic, and social obligation. Rigidity is considered uncomfortable, not professional.
18. Russia: Eleven time zones. Vast winters. Long silences. Time here is treated with patience that outsiders often mistake for slowness.
19. Egypt: One of the first civilizations to invent a calendar. Yet modern Egyptian social time is deeply flexible. Hospitality always comes before the clock.
20. Congo: Community shapes the day more than any schedule. Time belongs to the people in the room, not the hands on the clock.
21. Philippines: Filipino time is a known and accepted reality. Six in the evening means seven or eight. Arriving before the host is ready is the real social mistake.
22. Vietnam: Built on endurance and long horizons. Planning here thinks in years and generations. Short deadlines feel foreign to a culture that measured time in struggles spanning decades.
23. Tanzania: Pole pole. Slowly slowly. A phrase that governs daily life. Rushing is not a virtue here. Moving with intention is.
24. Argentina: Dinner at ten. Parties at midnight. The night is its own world. Compressing it into earlier hours would make it something lesser.
25. Turkey: A meeting can become a meal can become a long evening. Nobody considers this a deviation. It is simply what time is for.
26. Iran: Its own solar calendar. New Year on the spring equinox. Time tied to nature, poetry, and a civilization so old that modern urgency feels like a passing trend.
'Uthman bin 'Affan said:
Verily, Allah only gave you the dunya so that you use it to seek the hereafter (and all that which facilitates seeking the hereafter),
and He did not give it to you so that you would incline towards it (by hoarding it or spending wastefully).
Those who fear God will be kept away from the Hellfire. For they spend their wealth in order to purify themselves, not as payment for any favours received by them. They spend only to gain the pleasure of their Lord, Most High. God will surely be well-pleased with them. ~ Qur'an 92:17–21
Ibn Taymiyyah said:
“A sin that leads to humility and repentance is better than an act of obedience that leads to arrogance.”
Majmu’ al-Fatawa (11/622)
ثالثاً: ( البخل والإمساك)
يخوفك من الصدقة والإنفاق ويقعد يهمس لك لا تصرف ترى بتفتقر
وتنسى إن الله وعد بالخلف وإن الصدقة بركة وزيادة
رابعاً: (الكسل والتسويف)
يقول لك بكرة وبعد شوي ولسه بدري
ويمشي الوقت وتضيع الفرص
هذا من أعظم ما يُروى عن سعة رحمة الله ولطفه بعباده
قَدِمَ على النبي ﷺ سبيٌ، فإذا امرأةٌ منهم قد درّ لبنها، تبحث عن طفلٍ لها. كلما وجدت صبيًا ضمّته إلى صدرها وأرضعته. فلما وجدت ��فلها، ألصقته ببطنها بشدةٍ من الشفقة والحنان.
فقال لنا النبي ﷺ: «أترون هذه طارحةً ولدها في النار؟»
قلنا: لا والله، وهي تقدر على ألا تطرحه.
فقال ﷺ: «لَلهُ أرحمُ بعباده من هذه بولدها».
متفق عليه (صحيح البخاري ومسلم)
Do not talk about discernment if you cannot recognise when someone needs compassion more than criticism and correction. There is a time to guide and a time to simply hold space for a person who is hurting. Wisdom knows the difference. And kindness knows it even faster.
Whoever commits evil will be rewarded accordingly, and they will find no protector or helper besides Allah.”
[Quran 4:123]
The therapy of hope is given when one has lost balance by fully succumbing to fear or despair.
A person must maintain balance between hope and fear,
3/9
You are not the only one who has felt this very peculiar and unspeakable thing. Someone has already written it down. Someone sat alone with the same unbearable weight you are carrying right now and they survived it long enough to find words for it. That is what the whole of human literature is. Millions of people saying: me too, me too, me too…in the dark, across centuries, reaching forward through time to find you. You are not alone in this, you never were. The writers were always writing specifically to you. They just didn’t know your name.