@Melani_020 There is no such thing as no sx b4 marriage,Wht is the wisdom of experiencing natural sexual feelings if one is not expected 2 heed the call? is it again expected of some ppl 2 die as virgins since others die without being married.mind u this is a unfounded religious qoute
We had our bath and all I wanted was sleep because I was exhausted.
My husband wanted s3xx, but I said no and asked him to wait until morning.
He got angry and left the bedroom. I fell asleep, only to wake up to him slápping me across the fáce. Before I could even understand what was happening, he slápped me again and said I had no right to deny him s3xx.
I defended myself, but he became more violent, overpowered me, tore my nightwear, and forced himself on me.
I still cannot believe this happened to me.
Marriage is not ownership.
Tell me honestly, do you believe a spouse has the right to force s3xx on their partner after being told no?¿
“I’m a married woman with 3 kids, and I really need honest advice because this situation is getting out of hand.
It all started after my last birthday. My husband’s elder brother sent me 100,000. I was surprised, so I called him to ask why. He said it was a birthday gift. I even told him it was too much, but he insisted I should accept it.
Out of respect and transparency, I told my husband. He even called his brother to thank him.
But that’s where everything changed…
Later, my husband’s elder brother called me and warned me never to tell my husband again whenever he sends me money. That alone made me very uncomfortable.
Then things got worse.
Whenever my husband travels, he starts asking me to meet him in private places. I refused the first time, the second time, even the third time.
Then one day, he came to our house and confronted me, angry that I didn’t show up.
I stood my ground and told him clearly: I cannot meet you alone anywhere.
But instead of stopping, he pushed further,
He told me he wants to buy me a new car. He even suggested I should lie to my husband, that I took a loan, sold my old car, and upgraded, without telling him the truth.
At this point, I feel disrespected, uncomfortable, and honestly disturbed.
I haven’t told my husband yet. but I’m wondering if I should.
If you were in my shoes, what would you do?
Keep quiet to avoid family drama, or speak up before it gets worse?
I really need your advice”.
@PhophiRamathuba The community s choice supercede/overrides all these requirements,it was even the outcome with previous elections hence some of ure Cllrs dismally fail 2 comprehend policies