My dad said there’s no better way to punish a man than to leave him. All that blocking, silent treatment, long paragraphs, swearing at him or getting physical doesn’t matter. Just leave him, sis.
JUST WONDERING HOW MOMS are supposed to work 9-5, drop the kids off at school at 8 AM, pick them up by 3 PM, stay on top of school activities, meal prep, cook dinner, keep the house clean, do the laundry, run the kids to extracurricular activities, climb the corporate ladder, save sick days for when the kids are sick, be a good friend, daughter, and partner, all while trying to take care of their own body and mental health…
Tolerating always turns to resentment. At first, you call it patience, then love. But what it really is, is self-abandonment. Every time you swallow a boundary, excuse a pattern, or silence your discomfort, something inside you keeps score. And eventually, the bill comes due.
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my therapist dropped a truth bomb on me: “high functioning depression is scary as hell because you’re very capable of hiding emotions, feelings and thoughts, so no one knows you're not okay and even if you say something no one realises the severity, because you don’t seem like someone who is mentally spiralling out of control” felt it to the core.
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Normalize NOT reaching out to someone who hasn’t responded to your text or called back in hours, or days. They know they haven't spoken to you. It’s not because they're busy. It’s because they don't want to. They know you’re a good person. They just don't care. If they wanted to be around, they WOULD. If they wanted to take you on a date, they WOULD. If they wanted to stay in contact, they WOULD. Leave them ALONE. Quit going the extra mile to make someone care, because no matter what you do, it won’t change anything.
You have to prepare for the reality of being alone. Maybe now. Maybe later. Maybe in your old age. As your children grow, they could outgrow you, maybe because you failed them, maybe you failed to meet their expectations or maybe because life pulls them elsewhere. Spouses leave. Friends drift. Romantic partners change their minds. Such ladies and gentlemen is life.
So factor it in. Properly. Don’t build a life that collapses when people exit the frame. Learn to sit with yourself without panic.
If you don’t make peace with your own company, you will always negotiate your dignity just to avoid loneliness. And that is a far worse fate than being alone.