Michelle Martin Saville

Sometimes I’m an evil witch and sometimes I am as sweet as a cupcake - according to my loving child

[Ian @ianaddison]

Does anyone know when half-term is?

Oh, don't worry, I worked it out.

[Michelle Martin Saville @MSaville007]

I've just registered for the B2B Marketing Expo in November, who else is joining me? https://t.co/u21rAErnJG

[Suraj Sharma @Suraj_Sharma]

Shame on you @CliveEfford 😞

[Michelle Martin Saville @MSaville007]

@MikeJackBR7 Guarantee our new Chislehurst MP wasn’t there

[Michelle Martin Saville @MSaville007]

#TheAssembly - watch watch watch. ❤️

[Michelle Martin Saville @MSaville007]

Queued in @ZARA to buy a gift voucher and £20 minimum only. Lost my custom

[James Lucas @JamesLucasIT]

People who accidentally found their doppelgängers in museums - a thread 🧵

[Jason Helmes @anymanfitness]

Just finished this book - Bad Therapy by @AbigailShrier

This is one of the most eye-opening books I've ever read. It's a must read for any parent, any teacher, and should be required reading for any school administrator as well.

The book dives into trying to figure out why kids are having so many mental health problems, when there are so many resources devoted to improving mental health outcomes.

Anxiety, depression, suicide, etc are all higher than they've ever been with kids, even though their lives are arguably better than ever before. It just doesn't make sense.

A few key takeaways from the book:

A constant attention on how kids are "feeling" or "thinking" is causing negative outcomes.

Constantly ruminating on your emotions and how you feel negatively impacts your mental health. If all you do is focus on your emotions, you are destined to be anxious or depressed.

We incessantly ask kids how they're feeling, if they're happy, how their mental health is, etc, and this is creating kids who think they're fragile instead of resilient.

Trying to solve every problem for kids has caused a generation who can't do anything for themselves.

We (Gen X) were told to "suck it up" or "you'll live" or "rub some dirt on it" all the time. Many of us came to the conclusion this is "bad parenting" because our feelings were neglected, and we vowed not to do this to our own children.

Because of that, kids immediately over-dramatize everything that happens to them, making mountains out of molehills, and thinking the world must revolve around their emotions and feelings.

You develop confidence and strong mental health by doing things, not by thinking or via therapy.

You can't think your way out of anxiety. You don't gain confidence by analysis of your thoughts or mental health issues.

You gain confidence and eliminate anxiety by doing gradually more difficult tasks, excelling at them, and realizing you are a competent, capable person.

The non-stop attention therapy gives to these small, common emotions we all feel blows them out of proportion to their seriousness (not talking about genuine disorders here, just normal anxieties that millions of people go to therapy to try to avoid).

One of the best ways to decrease your happiness is to chase it.

Our society constantly tells kids they should be "happy" and asks them if they are.

Happiness isn't a state you should be in 24/7. That's not realistic. Joy and bliss aren't permanent states - they are fleeting.

Contentment, stillness, and being even-keeled are much better goals to aim for mentally.

The happiest, most well adjusted kids come from families with loving parents that have strict rules for the household.

This one really set off the confirmation bias in me... I feel really blessed we have 2 well adjusted middle school kids who do great in school, are very respectful and well mannered, and we barely even need to parent them.

But for years, we were very strict with them. Bedtimes, family rules, how we do things, etc. The in-laws and lots of friends thought we were totalitarian.

In reality, we just had high standards. And it's really paying off right now. I found it really interesting that strict rules equals happy kids. Makes sense, though, as kids need to know what their boundaries are.

Constantly surveying school-age kids about their mental health causes more issues than it solves.

Mental health resources is big money. Districts need to validate all the resources allocated towards mental health, and they often do that via surveys.

Asking kids non-stop questions like:

- Have you thought about self harm?
- Have you thought about suicide?
- Have you been so anxious you can't get out of bed?

Etc, etc puts into their heads the idea that themselves, or many of their peers are broken and cannot function properly in the real world.

It normalizes situations that would be incredibly rare at any other time in history.

There's a lot of other takeaways, too, but I'll stop there.

It's a fantastic book. Go pick it up and read it. This isn't an affiliate thing or a promotion thing at all. I just really enjoyed it, and it will further shape the way I parent moving forward.

[Chislehurst Partnership Patient Participation Grp @ChislehurstPPG]

Important updates to the telephone and appointment systems at the practice are imminent.

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[Michelle Martin Saville @MSaville007]

Local @Conservatives MP candidate for CHISLEHURST can’t even spell the constituency he wants to represent correct in his newsletter he’s posting through our letterboxes - 2 different wrong spellings (not even going to mention Blackwall Tunnel!) 😳😤

[Michelle Martin Saville @MSaville007]

@MikeJackBR7 Report on the Bromley council website. The double line parking is ridiculous and dangerous there - I’ve sent many photos in the hope they will send traffic officers! Live in hope

[Specsavers @Specsavers]

Free eye tests in Blackpool tomorrow.

[Michelle Martin Saville @MSaville007]

I'm attending B2B Marketing Expo on 29-30 November at Excel London. Will you join me? https://t.co/szIftdeXMN

[Michelle Martin Saville @MSaville007]

@ChisMatters Permanent traffic warden on Lower Camden shops 😂

[Michelle Martin Saville @MSaville007]

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I have an HDH TV , sky etc and I pay my BBC LICENCE FEE and now the whole of Sat tv recorded is unavailable as this is on the entire screen.

[Michelle Martin Saville @MSaville007]

Why am I seeing this on recorded programmes - #bbc @BBCOne

[Sam Webber @samdwebber]

I call on all residents from Bromley and our neighbouring boroughs to continue to support @The_Churchill as much as you can because it remains 100% open for business:
https://t.co/n4WAIVq6k4

This year's panto is Cinderella, from 2nd - 31st Dec:
https://t.co/TV9U12Xwk8

[Michelle Martin Saville @MSaville007]

@BullersPe Satchel isn’t working for school fyi

[Michelle Martin Saville @MSaville007]

@BullersBoysPE Well done! Any year 10 fixtures left in season?

[Michelle Martin Saville @MSaville007]

Here’s an idea 💡 Why doesn’t the Sky remote have a light on it so you can actually see the buttons you are pressing when watching tv in the dark??? @skytv