give people time to learn your love language, but be honest enough with yourself to know when your love language isn’t for them. connection runs deeper than laughs and hugs, compatibility runs deeper than patience and tolerance, comfort runs deeper than closeness and chemistry.
never be too hard on yourself for staying when you should have left, or leaving when you should’ve stayed. there are lessons in the things you choose to tolerate, and the things you choose to let go.
i am flourishing, with or without your energy, with or without your opinion, with or without your acceptance, with or without your blessing, with or without your love, with or without you, i am flourishing.
i stopped renting out space in my heart when i realized that no one could ever own me regardless of how much they like the idea of me. i stopped renting out space in mind when i realized that no one can control me regardless of how my energy makes them feel. i belong to me first.
my softness is not an invitation for your recklessness. my softness does not give you a pass to treat my energy like a playground for your own enjoyment. my softness can turn into distance without hesitation.
if your soul has no words and feels quiet today, if your heart feels empty and in need of furnishing, i hope you remember that your existence is not defined by anyone else’s love, or the lack of it. i hope you’re feeding your solitude with self love instead of loneliness.