It turns you into a people pleaser. You avoid conflict because you can’t afford to lose access, help, or opportunities.
It makes you overexplain. You feel the need to justify your existence, choices, or mistakes.
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“Grootman” was never about money, we call each other that as a sign of respect.
We call Vendors, Cashiers, Petrol Attendants etc grootman. It’s not about money
Somedays you feel like you are about to conquer , some you feel like you are carrying the whole world on your shoulders .
What’s the formula ?
To keep it going?
Made a joke to my girlfriend about how there's somethings I'd never do in front of her even if we dated for the next 20 years.
Guess which part she focused on?
It wasn't the joke but the 20 years
They don't even see it as classism. They call it "vibes" or "outgrowing people". The "vibe" that changed is your tax bracket. "Outgrowing" means your social utility expired. It's the most cowardly form of discrimination
Men bond over values. Women bond over valuables