The cost of having children is worth the presence of children.
Full stop.
I am dumbstruck at how our society thinks of children as a costly, time-consuming drag. What an impoverished way to think.
No vacation will hold your hand in the hospital. No amount of mimosas at brunch can walk with you through grief. Double incomes cannot replace empty seats around the dinner table.
The OKC Thunder are very good, will likely be an NBA dynasty, and I have zero desire to watch them play.
Watching the Warriors was fun. The Bulls were amazing. The Lakers with Kobe/Shaq or Kobe/Pau were appointment viewing.
Watching the Thunder is annoying unless you’re a fan
I call it Spilled Milk Syndrome.
The people who suffer from it live difficult, stressful lives, no matter how well things may otherwise be going for them.
They freak out when their iPhone screen cracks. Their flight gets delayed an hour, and it makes them crazy.
Their uber driver cancels last minute, and they yell at their screen. Their printer runs out of paper when they’re running late and need that important document - and their heart races like crazy.
Their blood boils when their latte’s too hot. Or their new shoes get stained the first time they wear them. Or the babysitter’s running 10 minutes behind.
Life’s little annoying moments shock them every time. They are the spilled milk moments that fill all of our lives - and they’re routine no matter who you are or even how wealthy you may be.
The people who expect these moments and take them in stride have an incredible gift.
When a business deal falls apart, they try to save it - and they move on to the next when they realize they can’t.
When the baby starts crying again at 3am, they can choose to be frustrated and to feel sorry for themselves because they had a long day and need the sleep - or they can choose to not to let it get them down.
How you handle those countless moments is simply up to you.
They are going to keep happening no matter what - and you can choose to take them in stride, not let them set you back, and to look forward.
Or you can choose to waste much of your life angry and frustrated, “crying over spilled milk.”
It’s perhaps the most important life choice you can make.