Harris | Secure Connection❤️

The Secure Connection Method
Trauma Practitioner
Connection Coach
Take my relational health questionnaire to find out your score
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HOT TOPICS PODCAST LIVE (Living with a Chronic Illness, Part 8, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome): Host Gabrielle Crichlow talks with Harris Eddie Hill (they/them, @mxharrishill) about #ChronicFatigueSyndrome. #ChronicIllness #CFS #MEAwareness #HotTopicsPodcast https://t.co/fCcFMXEAPH

[Harris | Secure Connection❤️ @MxHarrisHill]

Men covering for each other is not 'bro code'. How socially dysfunctional does one have to be to think being surrounded by yes men and enablers is not super embarrassing? Good friends hold you accountable and challenge you to do better when necessary.

[Harris | Secure Connection❤️ @MxHarrisHill]

Strategies for coping are not the same as feeling. Coping is what you do to get to the other side, but it is not supposed to be how you live. There's no shame in having been stuck in coping mechanisms for decades. But we end the breath-holding by creating space to feel and heal.

[Harris | Secure Connection❤️ @MxHarrisHill]

Healing from relational cPTSD makes future heartbreaks easier. Not because you feel the pain less, but because you process it in real time more cleanly; less blame and shame, less numbing out, less chaos, better tools to release emotions, less emotional constipation for later 💩

[Harris | Secure Connection❤️ @MxHarrisHill]

When you're coming out of your codependent phase cos you got sick of wiping everyone's arses 🤣

[Harris | Secure Connection❤️ @MxHarrisHill]

I'm sick of opinions. As I see it; you know something, you've experienced something, or you prefer something. The rest is just nonsense, ignorance, entitlement or speculation.

[Harris | Secure Connection❤️ @MxHarrisHill]

You know what banter is called when it's not consensual?
Bullying. It's called bullying.
And before anyone whines about being sensitive, when my sister calls me c*** features, I've never felt more loved.
It's only banter if it's consensual. Trust is often essential for some.

[Harris | Secure Connection❤️ @MxHarrisHill]

When transphobes say we 🏳️‍⚧️ need help from mental health professionals...who do you think signs off on our hormones and surgeries, dumbass 🤣

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'landlord' and 'landlady' are needlessly gendered words. pls be more inclusive by using 'landbastard' instead

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Every life change makes it obvious who's with you on the next leg of your journey. And who isn't. That is sometimes surprising, and it's okay to be disappointed about that.

[Harris | Secure Connection❤️ @MxHarrisHill]

@NetflixUK the coming soon timers on your Android app are broken

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Tired of the emotional rollercoaster with your avoidant partner? Healing your attachment wounds can end the cycle. You’ll stop chasing connection and start building real, consistent love. Ready for change? Let’s talk. #SecureAttachment #HealthyLove

[Harris | Secure Connection❤️ @MxHarrisHill]

Can an avoidant partner change? Yes, but it requires emotional regulation, patience, and a willingness to communicate calmly. If you're ready to break the cycle and move forward, let's talk about how to make lasting change. #HealthyRelationships #AttachmentHealing

[Harris | Secure Connection❤️ @MxHarrisHill]

Escaping an abusive narcissist was hard, but now you're stuck in a cycle with an avoidant partner who disappears and reappears. It’s exhausting, but change is possible. Heal your attachment wounds & learn to communicate without fear. Ready for the next step? #BreakTheCycle

[Harris | Secure Connection❤️ @MxHarrisHill]

Anger fiercely loves you. We're often conditioned to suppress or to be cut off from anger by people who want us to be controllable. But healthy anger in relationships is absolutely essential; it lets us know where our edges are. It is the path to healthy love (read the caption).

[Harris | Secure Connection❤️ @MxHarrisHill]

Chronic anxiety is a trauma response, aside from biochemical reasons. Anxiety inside relationships says, 'if only I can predict every hazard, I can avoid abandonment and pain'. But that's not anxiety's job; it's only meant to keep you alive in the short term (read the caption).

[Harris | Secure Connection❤️ @MxHarrisHill]

You're not bad at explaining. So many of my clients believe that their challenging relationships could be turned around, if only they could explain the issue with just the right combination of words. But that hasn't and won't work (read the caption).

[Harris | Secure Connection❤️ @MxHarrisHill]

I dare you.
You don't need me to tell you what your challenges are. But I dare you to do something different about it. Nothing changes if nothing changes. I dare you to try something different and actually ask for help. Have a no pressure chat with me, and I will help you. LIB.

[Harris | Secure Connection❤️ @MxHarrisHill]

What the fuck do you want, babe? Really. Truthfully. No holds barred. I want to know what you want. I don't work to fulfil some dream of creating things I like; I work to help you. I've learnt how to transform even the toughest relationships. Tell me. If you could have anything?