When you’re always making assumptions about people, you damage your capacity to relate to them. You’re always assuming you know how they think & feel so you stop listening & communicating, leading to misunderstanding. Be mindful of this or it can spiral into negative thinking.
Allāhumma lā saḥla illā ma jaʿaltahu saḥla wa anta tajʿalu ‘l-ḥazna idhā shiʾta saḥla.
O Allāh, there is no ease other than what You make easy. If You please You ease sorrow.
Ya Rabb, our parents have whispered our names in countless du'as. By Your mercy, accept those prayers, fulfill their hopes for us, and make us a source of joy for them in this dunya and the akhirah.
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Stay positive. Don't let rejection from a few, make you miserable and stop you from seeing the brighter side. Such is life; you can’t please everyone so don’t even try. Focus on who is for you rather than who is against you. That’s the way forward.
Ya Allah, I hope for Your mercy. Do not leave me to myself even for a blink of an eye. Correct all of my affairs for me. There is none worthy of worship except You.
Yesterday, I told us that when a woman is tired of you, she would start behaving in a way that even you would know.
And she would be deliberate with all her actions and inactions.
But you the man being a weak man, will continue to make excuses for her in your head.
When a woman is not treating you right, she knows exactly what she's doing, and she needs you to pull the plug.
Tell me...
How can a wife and mother, be bold enough to be allowing another man to drop her at home, and in the late hours of the night, knowing that her husband would see her, and she doesn't mind or care?
And then, she brazingly tells him a white lie that the driver of the Benz is her Uber driver?
What type of mother would tell her SIL that his wife is an adult, and that she can do whatever she likes, after her SIL complained to her that he doesn't have money to buy a car?
These stories are very painful and embarrassing. But they're real, & they are not as uncommon to men who failed to properly do their vetting, before marrying their wives.
If you young single men just read the stories like a story book, and you laugh your way through them, then you may be shocked that, those stories may become your reality, tomorrow.
All these things are as a result of being in a transactional relationship.
And treating women how they wish to be treated, and not how they ought to be treated.
It starts from....
"I asked you for money for my hair, you can't even give me. Is this how your mates take care of their girlfriends?"
"You say that you're my boyfriend, but you don't even give me monthly allowance"
Then you begin to enable her, and start to breed an extremely entitled and greedy woman.
To you, you're showing her love.
To her, she's already building expectations that are not realistic or sustainable in the long run.
Then when you marry her, you start to complain as if you did not enable her in the first place?
She would begin to frustrate you, disrespect you at will, and cause you to do things like even hitting her out of anger, so that she will use it as a bargaining chip to justify her leaving you, and perhaps, bring you down.
The young medical doctor lost his father at a very tender age.
He grew up with his widowed mother.
While a widow can still raise a man, it can be sometimes very difficult, if he lost his father at a very tender age, and doesn't have a male figure to look up to.
For those of you young men that are still blessed to have your fathers with you, my advise to young girls few days ago, also applies to you.
Cultivate the habit of engaging your fathers in discussions that have to do with relationships, and how to properly vet a woman.
Your father will use his mistakes to advice you, and guide you.
Stop thinking that you're wiser than your father.
God made him your father for this purpose, and many other things.
If you think that because you are making money, and that your father can not advice you, you'll regret it.
End.
ربنا هب لنا من أزواجنا وذرياتنا قرة أعين واجعلنا للمتقين إماما
[Rabbanā hab lanā min azwājinā waḏurriyyātinā qurrata aʿyunin wa-jaʿalnā lilmuttaqīna imāmā]
Our Lord, give us joy in our spouses and offspring. Make us good examples to those who are aware of You