“If we’re lucky, life is defined not by what we let go, but what we let in… To be human is to be imperfect, and to accept that is to thrive.”
#CallTheMidwife’s words of wisdom get me every time.
The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares.
Henri Nouwen,
“It used to be that a socially avoidant woman would come for therapy saying something like, ‘I’m a painfully shy person and I need help learning how to deal better with people in social situations.’ Now a person with that concern is likely to tell me that she ‘has’ social phobia—as if an alien affliction has invaded her otherwise problem-free subjective life.”
People talk about themselves in acronyms oddly dissociated from their lived experience: ‘my OCD,’ ‘my eating disorder,’ ‘my bipolar.’
There is an odd estrangement from one’s sense of an agentic self… and consequently one’s possibilities for solving a problem.”
—Nancy McWilliams (Diagnosis and Its Discontents: Reflections on Our Current Dilemma, 2021)
This is how a genuine expert discusses narcissism.
If you listen, you might notice that real expertise sounds nothing like the therapy-slop you hear from online influencers.
The entire podcast episode is filled with rich information.
Practice the pause. Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you're about to react harshly and you'll avoid doing and saying things you'll later regret.
Lori Deschene
#pause
Jane Goodall had a remarkable ability to inspire us to connect with the natural wonders of our world, and her groundbreaking work on primates and the importance of conservation opened doors for generations of women in science. Michelle and I are thinking of all those who loved and admired her.