N.C. Fuller

Christ Follower • Wife, Mama, Homemaker • Fantasy Fiction Enthusiast • Recovering Feminist

[Andrew T. Walker @AndrewTWalker]

I became a World Cup respecter all of five minutes ago, and I'm totally all-in on the US smashing Belgium tonight.

[N.C. Fuller @NC_Fuller]

@MrsErikaKirk Continuing to pray for you all. ❤️

[Erika Kirk @MrsErikaKirk]

This @nytimes op-ed completely misses the point on the purpose of marriage and children and completely misrepresents my views in the process. The entire article is laced with viewing family through the lens of money and career as if those things bring fulfillment and purpose. When you’re on your death bed, your money and your career won’t be whispering in your ear “I love you” as you take your last breath. The material goods and fortune of this world mean nothing when we go to our eternal resting place.

The author also conveniently leaves out the part of my Hillsdale commencement speech where I said “marry young, not rushed, but young.”

We serve a God of order and when you live a life ordered there’s a double portion of grace. Meaning marriage first, then kids, and everything else. Timing matters because life is shorter than you might think, and you never know what could happen. The point is, don’t put it off. Don’t rush it or force it if it’s not right, but don’t put it off.

I say this from a place of personal reflection. My marriage with Charlie and our babies are the biggest blessings of my life. I was 32 when I married Charlie, which in my mind is neither young to start a family or old. You just run up against statistics at that point and it just so happened to be the Lord’s timing and He still blessed us with two beautiful children. But I wish we met and were able to start our life and family together much sooner.

There is no such thing as perfect timing to have kids. Financial struggles are a part of life, but the problem is a lot of Americans are self-surviving, not self-sacrificing, and they expect to live a very distinct lifestyle based on what they see online. When Charlie encouraged young people to have more kids than they can afford, he wasn’t saying to recklessly bring a child into this world and have them on welfare. He was saying children aren’t a luxury item to have once you meet a certain tax bracket threshold. You don’t need a mansion in order to build a family.

It’s easy when you’re young to think that you have all the time in the world, but it’s a hard fact of life and science that that’s simply not the case. If you've met your person and you’re checking off boxes based on societal expectations of dating for a couple years, then a long engagement, then adjusting to married life before having children, you’re wasting valuable time. Getting pregnant in your late 30s and 40s is usually a lot harder than in your late 20s. Not always, but it’s a hard reality for many couples.

The inverted priorities of our current culture encourages women to believe that getting married and having children are weights on an otherwise rich and carefree existence. And yet, young Americans have never felt less happy or carefree. Children are not an obstacle, they're a gift from the Lord. They give life so much more meaning than you could ever imagine. When we stop looking at marriage and children as barriers to a happy life, maybe then there’ll be progress in this country.

[N.C. Fuller @NC_Fuller]

@mrsmeganeverly In my extremely limited experience, I have tried to find the enjoyable parts in the hard stages, but this is spot on. The first few months with our second were really hard, and I don’t miss them at all. She’s much more enjoyable now. 😂❤️

[Tanya @tanyaelisabethh]

Once children became things we can create, select, freeze, discard, rent wombs for, pay for, screen for, customize, we really should not be shocked when people begin speaking of them like they are just products, because that is what products are, they are judged by their quality, they are measured by how useful they are, they are accepted or rejected based on whether they meet the desires of the buyer.

This is what normalizing abortion, IVF and surrogacy has done for us. Evils beyond our wildest imaginations.

[Matt Walsh @MattWalshBlog]

As I get older I will never understand adults who are embarrassed about their age. Why are you sad and embarrassed that you've existed for a while? Why is it "rude" for someone to ask you how old you are? Why would you want people to think you're in your 20s if you're really in your 30s or 40s or 50s? It should go the other way. Age and experience should be a point of pride, if anything. The glorification of youth, and the desire to stay in that state forever, is the most retarded feature of the modern world. We used to revere our elders. Now we revere 23 year olds. Because why exactly? They don't know anything and haven't done anything. It's insane.

[Andrew T. Walker @AndrewTWalker]

The cost of having children is worth the presence of children.

Full stop.

I am dumbstruck at how our society thinks of children as a costly, time-consuming drag. What an impoverished way to think.

No vacation will hold your hand in the hospital. No amount of mimosas at brunch can walk with you through grief. Double incomes cannot replace empty seats around the dinner table.

[N.C. Fuller @NC_Fuller]

@farmingandJesus I also just got bangs and feel like I finally found my hairstyle. ❤️

[N.C. Fuller @NC_Fuller]

Also, if a man isn’t leading his wife well, he isn’t doing SL. And by not leading, he isn’t really serving her either.

[N.C. Fuller @NC_Fuller]

A man can lead his wife and still serve her. I do this every day with my kids…I put their needs above my own, but they don’t get to boss me around. That’s all that SL is.

[Eric Conn @Eric_Conn]

Under the Servant Leader™ model, the husband "leads" only in the sense that he takes the initiative to serve the desires of his wife.

[N.C. Fuller @NC_Fuller]

Eph. 5:25-30…that’s it. SL is just doing those verses. Go to any healthy church teaching complementarianism, and that’s what you’ll find. Not a feminist conspiracy, not functional egalitarianism…just doing what the Bible says.

[Clare Anne Ath @clareanneath]

Hot take that’s actually historically accurate:

Women have ALWAYS worked. Every culture. Every era. Every economic system.

The difference? It used to be home-based and family-integrated. You didn’t surrender your children to an institution, fight traffic, and spend 9 hours under fluorescent lights.

“Women shouldn’t work” isn’t traditional. It’s not even historical. It’s a myth.

The real conversation we should be having: why did we build a society where thriving economically requires severing family bonds and why do we call that progress?

[N.C. Fuller @NC_Fuller]

@mrsmeganeverly Haha I had this as an assignment for one of my college writing classes, and I did that redheads are really aliens. It was extra fun cuz my professor was a redhead. 😂

[Wes Huff @WesleyLHuff]

It’s Easter Week. The most important week in history!

Don’t let people bog you down with a-historical silliness in the midst of focusing on what it’s all about.

See the graphic here https://t.co/kUCxVXZrYa

[N.C. Fuller @NC_Fuller]

And I love that they’re normal women who are also Olympic athletes. Most of them are married in their 30s, two with cute chunky babies, ordinary jobs, and they just seem so nice and normal. Such a different vibe than the opulent skaters who spout LGBTQ nonsense.

[N.C. Fuller @NC_Fuller]

If you aren’t watching the USA women’s curling team, you’re missing out. So much fun. I’ve been yelling “USA” at the TV so much my toddler started yelling it, and I never watch sports. 😂

[N.C. Fuller @NC_Fuller]

…For like a shaft, clear and cold, the thought pierced him that in the end the Shadow was only a small and passing thing: there was light and high beauty forever beyond its reach.”
- J.R.R. Tolkien, Return of the King

Light conquers the dark. Merry Christmas everyone!

[N.C. Fuller @NC_Fuller]

“The night sky was still dim and pale. There, peeping among the cloud-wrack above a dark tor high up in the mountains, Sam saw a white star twinkle for a while. The beauty of it smote his heart, as he looked up out of the forsaken land, and hope returned to him. …

[N.C. Fuller @NC_Fuller]

@MrDanielBuck Would love to start doing this with my toddler; she’s repeating everything these days. Do you have toys/books/games/etc you recommend using?

[N.C. Fuller @NC_Fuller]

@mrsdobbins_ Agreed. My whole view of pregnancy/childbirth/mothering changed when I understood that our bodies are meant to be used, and they’ll likely experience some wear and tear along the way. My children are worth breaking my body over.