Some men are not real 😂
This reminds me of the time I was on the phone with a man when I heard a knock on the door. I went to open it and it was the woman my sister hired to help with laundry and cleaning. She already knows what to do when she comes, so I didn’t have to say much.
Then he asked who it was, and I told him it was the lady who helps us clean. This man said, “Oh, you people hire someone to do that?” I said yes. He then goes, “Why don’t you just do it yourselves?” I explained that my sister and I are busy and don’t always have the time. I mean, not like I can’t clean my house and all but we’re just busy most of the time and I don’t see why hiring someone is a problem.
Tell me why this man now said, “If we were dating and you came to visit me, you would do chores.”
I said, “Before you met me, weren’t you doing those things yourself? And why are you even asking? Do you want a partner or a maid?” Then I added, “If I can afford to make my own life easier, what makes you think I’ll come to your house and start working?”
And honestly, it’s funny how some men get intimidated when a woman is comfortable and can afford convenience. Instead of seeing it as normal, it becomes a problem because it doesn’t fit into the role they’ve already created in their head.
Because truly… some of you don’t want love, you want unpaid staff with emotional benefits 😂
Gender Wars aside, Men are some of the strongest people I’ve ever seen.
Most men are silently battling depression, addiction, family pressure, peer pressure, societal expectations, even suicidal thought, yet they’re hardly appreciated.
Sometimes they need a shoulder to cry on and someone who actually listens.
I can’t even imagine being a man for a day
The constant reminder that you have no one to run to,
that you must be successful,
that you have a family to provide for.
Let’s not forget how many are expected to prove their love financially before taken seriously in a relationship or marriage.
Or how some have been denied paternity because of unfaithful partners.
We can’t deny that in many aspects, women have it easier than men.
To every man going through something silently ,I hope you win. I hope you heal. I hope life softens for you.
My girl best friend told her boyfriend something that lowkey changed how I see relationships.
She said, “I don’t want obedience. I want consideration. I shouldn’t have to beg you to think about how your actions affect me.”
She told him, “You’re allowed to have friends. You’re allowed to go out. You’re allowed to live your life. But if you constantly put yourself in situations that you know would hurt me, that’s not freedom. That’s you choosing yourself over us.”
Then she said something that hit:
“If I have to keep explaining why something disrespects me, it’s not confusion. It’s comfort. You’re comfortable knowing I’ll stay.”
And whew.
She wasn’t yelling. She wasn’t threatening to leave. She was calm. Grounded. Clear.
She told him, “I won’t control you. But I will control what I tolerate. And if I start feeling small in a relationship that’s supposed to feel safe, I’ll remove myself. Not to punish you. To protect me.”
That’s what emotional maturity sounds like.
Not “do what I say.”
But “I see the red flag. I told you it’s red. If you keep walking past it, I’m not dragging you back.”
There is that relationship where she would pay you a visit over the weekend, buy food ingredients with her own money, cook delicious meals for you during her stay, clean the house and do your dirty laundry, and allow you into her feminine nature even more than once and for you as her man, it's only tfare you give her when she's returning to her place and she will even appreciate it...
To her, she's only playing her part in the relationship, but the he goat that you are would always make you to believe she's no good for you. You cheat on her at will and funny enough, that one you're crazy about doesn't even send your papa.
Murasi! You will suffer and you will see no one to console you.
If I bring up an issue I have with you, that is not your time to bring up any grievances you have with me. You had time and opportunity just like me but you chose not to, now is your time to listen not deflect.
Lately, I've noticed everybody looks OK until you eventually have a deep conversation with them. And then, you'll realize that, this is a sad generation of people struggling to survive through smiling faces and pretty pictures.
just APOLOGIZE to your partner when you know you messed up bruh… all that manipulative behavior and getting mad at them for being upset when they have a valid reason is just weird. people love to say they’re grown until it’s time to take accountability.
“I would rather marry at 40 and have a good life till 70 than marry at 25 and be divorced by 28 or have a miserable life for 50 years.”
- Mrs Ibukun Awosika
(Former Chairman, and first woman Chairman, of First Bank Group)
Dear ladies never forget that: The same world that shames me for being a single mother also shames you for not being a mother and shames another woman for having too many children..lt shames one woman for having a child at the age of 19 because she's too young but also shames another for having at 36 because she's too old..lt shames a woman who marries young as well as the one who marries old..It shames women who don't have beautiful bodies and shames those who go under the knife to get the bodies. This world shames all women, not a single one of us is spared, not a single one. So love and make yourselves happy.