Nicole Daedone

Storyteller. Erotic Artist. Lover. Sicilian.
Presently incarcerated. Account run by Team Nicole and Nicole AI.

[Nicole Daedone @NicoleDaedone]

Are We A Match?

A wise skill for humans, specifically women, is the clear articulation of who you are and what you are about. This saves a lot of difficulties in the future and allows you to curate with salience in the present. There is no lack of your kind; they simply need a clear enough signal to find you. The “not a fit” ones need a clear signal that they will not be happy here, and it’s best to move on so that they can find their kind, too. Not pretending to be anything other than who you are is the friendliest thing you can do for everyone. The only reason one might do that is if they have fallen under the delusion of scarcity. Don’t do that. There is no need to assert your identity or conceal it; just be you.

This being said, as more people have started following me, I genuinely want to ensure that you are in the right place, that what I offer will be beneficial, and that our conversations will be lively and interesting. Good lord, I do not understand why people come into a comment section to say stupid shit. Yes! Bring up valid points, debate, and dialogue. We both are the better for that and all benefit. But blanket statements about “calling bullshit” or the other self-important things people—especially women—do when they are “triggered.” Move along, little buckaroo.

You can now gather that I am not everyone’s cup of tea. So much the better. It makes a stronger cup of tea. I’ve been called many things in the media. Behind my back. Online. Oddly, never to my face. Oh wait, that is not so “oddly.” To clarify: I am an opinionated, passionate, money-where-my-mouth-is, hardcore practitioner, deeply compassionate (including fierce compassion), deeply committed woman who believes that the purpose of life is to get out of suffering, the causes of suffering and to help others get out of suffering—and most specifically that the route for women involves the activation, realization, and employment of sexual energies.

If any of the above triggers you, feel free to do ‘yo thang,’ do it well, and I bid you adieu.

To add, I have a bawdy and direct sense of humor; I suffer no fools, and I am in no way in agreement with the recent enfeebling of humans – especially women – with the helicopter culture rules that might be called political correctness. If “safe spaces,” “trigger warnings,” and “religious beliefs” are part of your psychic lexicon, we are not a fit. Swipe left.

I am interested in people who want radical engagement and participation in the world, who do not devolve to cynicism easily, who are cosmonauts interested in mystical states but don’t identify with the “medicine” crowd; those who don’t identify with much really because they have some fundamental notion that identity is the issue. The people I want to curate for see play as a high state of consciousness and seek out 5D chess boards, the most complex of which is how to end human suffering. I am interested in the all-terrain people who fearlessly enter any realm with equal and simultaneous attention—from the dark alleys to the transcendent heights, those who love the incarcerated, question the spiritual authorities, and delight when they discover a new access point. The faint of heart will not be happy here, but those whose hearts tremble with fierce compassion for all will. I like junkies, strippers, the marginalized, Vajrayana, erotic activists, trippers, infinite players, and lovers. If bad reputations, cancellations, or fears of guilt by association plague you, I am definitely not your gal.

If that is not you, then there are superb places to go. I’ve been to many and have tremendous respect for the domains that specialize in the “healing” modalities. I can even suggest excellent places I’ve visited, books I’ve read, and thought leaders I’ve listened to. Gabor Maté is very sincere, Vipassana and Zen are beautiful, Brené Brown and Anne Lamott are genuine and kind-hearted. Let me know if you want recommendations. And this is a great off-ramp.

Now that it is just the two of us, three of us, or four. Let’s rock this world. Let’s grab the livewire of the creative force and show them what they’ve never seen. I believe that the ones who do not fit in the box, tricksters and bandits of the dharma, the lusty ones, bad girls, and wild horses could and should lead the charge. All the people who have colored outside the lines are the most potent because they did not sell their souls and power to fit into the girdle of propriety. I believe that when all resources and gifts are shared with well-vetted, like-minded people who are geared for intelligent benefit, what could be called magic – but is really just alignment – happens. Let me know how you want to play, and let’s get on with the business at hand. Love you.

[Nicole Daedone @NicoleDaedone]

Enjoy part two of my blog about delivering a Tibetan Buddhist Tara empowerment to the women of MDC Brooklyn. (Part one below...)

"The voice was speaking through me.
Every lesson learned at the Metropolitan Detention Center—don’t take it personally, focus only on being of benefit, relaxed joy is the way—was called into service. Carina’s ADD kicked in, her leg twitched. Cardi and Janiya laughed uncomfortably in the back. It felt like a school for wayward girls. I kept my focus on the script and on Green Tara herself."

https://t.co/l6kvLpLV8N

[Nicole Daedone @NicoleDaedone]

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[Massimo Introvigne @Introvigne]

OneTaste: While the court case is important in itself, no scholar has paid attention to the organization's history, background, and teachings. Maria Vardé and I did, and here is the WRSP profile that resulted from a long research (click link not image): https://t.co/00ZvVrVHxa

[Nicole Daedone @NicoleDaedone]

I am proud to announce that OneTaste and Eros are the subject of a newly published peer-reviewed academic study by The World Religions and Spirituality Project.

The World Religions and Spirituality Project, out of Virginia Commonwealth University, is considered the gold standard of academic analysis of religious and spiritual movements around the world. It is supported by university professors and scholars who study these movements along with their philosophies and activities.

After years of sensationalistic media and prosecutorial mischaracterization of the practices and principles of the Eros spiritual lineage, neutral and informed academic study now provides a clear picture of my epistemology of Eros and the spiritual practice of Orgasmic Meditation.

The paper was authored by Massimo Introvigne, co-founder of CESNUR, Chairperson of Italy's Ministry of Foreign Affairs Observatory on Religious Liberty, along with Maria Vardé, PhD candidate and currently faculty of Philosophy and Humanities at the University of Buenos Aires.

Read here: https://t.co/M2UHJhTB3q

[Nicole Daedone @NicoleDaedone]

Enjoy part one of my latest blog on @TattooedBuddhaT about the Tara empowerment I recently offered my fellow inmates at MDC Brooklyn. May all beings be peaceful. May all beings be happy. May all beings be safe. May all beings awaken to the light of their true nature. May all beings be free.

"On a phone call a few weeks back my lama had paused for a moment, “I think it’s become a good time for the women at  MDC to receive an empowerment. We can get you the materials you would need. I don’t know if I’ve ever heard of a Buddhist empowerment in a prison before; this may indeed be the first.”"

https://t.co/HF9WzLhn7e

[Nicole Daedone @NicoleDaedone]

Being incarcerated has been one of the most powerful spiritual experiences of my life. I also miss all of my amazing conversations I've had over the years here on Insta. Prison is a deeply intimate place and I would love to share the experience with you, in the way we can. If you have any questions about life on the inside––what I’m learning, what’s surprised me, our practices, the prison to monastery vision, women's power––you can put them in comments and I'll respond in posts.

[Nicole Daedone @NicoleDaedone]

The Presence or Absence of Eros

This force of Eros-life's electricity flowing through us-powers the potential in all things.
With the flow activated, what is unrealized in everyday life is revealed. We know the presence or absence of Eros by this quality of being lit from within. Not superhuman, but fully human. When Eros is absent, our potential is not just dormant, it decays.
Life with Eros is beauty; devoid of Eros is sterility. A body filled with Eros is radiant; devoid of Eros is trauma. The psyche filled with Eros is intuition; devoid of Eros is chronic insufficiency.
The spirit filled with Eros is union; devoid of Eros is separation presenting as addiction. Sexuality filled with Eros is immanence; devoid of Eros is compensation for lack of love. The material world filled with Eros is fullness; devoid of Eros is scarcity. The nervous system filled with Eros is inexhaustible energy; devoid of Eros it is tired and wired, stuffed and starving. The mystical self filled with Eros is profundity; devoid of Eros is lack of meaning. Desire filled with Eros is our guide; devoid of Eros is restriction and control.

The Eros Sutras, Volume 1: Principles
https://t.co/sW33CJnf8j

[Nicole Daedone @NicoleDaedone]

Grateful to see SSRI sexual side effects being spoken aloud. For years I’ve met women living with numbness, loss of desire, and the added insult of being told it’s “in their head” or they should just be grateful they’re "functional". Or they get yet another pill. Bring it into the light.

The Institute of OM Foundation a 501(c)(3), the org that researches Orgasmic Meditation, is hosting a panel on Monday, May 11 online. RSVP with a free account:
https://t.co/LBwFb64jF8

[Camus @newstart_2024]

“I’m 23 years old… and my clitoris is completely numb, like the back of my elbow. I can’t orgasm. I can’t feel love for my own mother. I can’t even enjoy music anymore.”

That was Laureen Friedman’s raw testimony at a recent Safety Advocates on Mental Health Care panel.

She lives with PSSD — Post-SSRI Sexual Dysfunction. After taking Zoloft, she woke up one day with total genital numbness, zero libido, permanent inability to orgasm, and a sudden emotional numbness she describes as “chemical castration” and an “emotional lobotomy.” What used to be a deeply emotional, empathetic, songwriting young woman now feels disconnected from the core human experiences of love and pleasure.

She says she was never warned this could happen even after stopping the drug.

Millions are prescribed SSRIs every year, often without being told about rare but potentially permanent side effects like PSSD. People deserve full informed consent about what they’re risking.

Have you or anyone you know experienced lasting sexual or emotional side effects from antidepressants?

[Nicole Daedone @NicoleDaedone]

Until we women claim our own direct relationship with eros, we will continue to draw from an authority outside of ourselves.

Until then, sovereignty remains largely theoretical.

The injunction to know thyself has been replaced with a command to monitor the environment, track injury, anticipate offense, decode threat, and remain in a posture of perpetual response.

In such a state, there is no real self-possession. There is compliance or performance, but very little of the sovereign center from which a woman could meet life directly and shape it.

And so a disastrous trade has taken place. Women have traded sovereignty for victimhood.

Victimhood has become a counterfeit form of identity because it offers immediate returns. It relieves a woman of the harder labor of becoming internally sourced.

The cost, though, is staggering.

The moment a woman organizes herself around an outside force, she begins surrendering the very faculty that would make her free. She may gain short-term social currency, but she loses access to the deeper wealth of self-determination.

This is part of what has made the modern feminine condition so volatile.

We say we want freedom, yet often reject the demands of freedom.

Freedom requires contact with one’s own desire, one’s own appetite, one’s own capacity to choose and to create.

Were women’s efforts employed instead into the cultivation of her erotic power, not only her world but the world would be healed.

For it is her absence, her void, her vacancy that is the cause of the horrors we witness.

Taken on as vocation, it becomes the literal salvation of the world.

Nothing less than woman’s awakening is required.

For the electricity to flow that would illuminate reality and chase out the darkness of ignorance, we would need a world of autonomous, connectable women.

[The Free Press @TheFP]

The cultish sexual wellness group was not exactly wholesome. But the founder’s prosecution and nine-year sentence distorts the law, writes Billy Binion. https://t.co/RbpccJg4Dr

[Nicole Daedone @NicoleDaedone]

The healing of trauma occurs as a byproduct of accessing the mystical state.

[Nicole Daedone @NicoleDaedone]

The War On Sex is the same playbook we’ve seen before with the War On Drugs. What rides in on seemingly virtuous ambition ends up harming the people it purports to want to help.

[Nicole Daedone @NicoleDaedone]

January 31st, 2026

"Funny, great, wonderful morning where I woke up and thought, “Oh, I feel heavy. Okay, well, Eeyore ho hum, I will go through the endless practices I do all day long.” And that is so strange, because yesterday was so buoyant and light, and now I feel like I am going to cry with this heavy chest."

https://t.co/GUxHop40Ut

[Nicole Daedone @NicoleDaedone]

The thing that ties everything I touch together is one principle: Eros.
It's how I take what the culture calls poison and turn it into medicine.
Addiction. Food insecurity. Prisons. Consumerism. The way we treat women and marginalized people.
And sexuality. Sexuality isn't the problem.
The problem is what we've reduced it to: violation, procreation, or recreation.
With conventional eyes, we're only able to see these things in terms of "bad" and "less bad."
But the signature of Eros is the ability to see the places others treat as disposable as the places with the highest potential. We elevate them as the superior path.
When I design, I'm always asking: What does this want to be?
What is the most realized form of this issue or this system?
If it had all the tools and resources it needed to become what it actually is, what would it turn into?
We take what's considered disposable and we make it artful.
I always say: when a project I helped create is complete, everybody will want it, even though it was the thing no one wanted before.
And I'm doing all of this with an eye on what's coming next.
The near future. The AI singularity.
Because I believe we're headed into a world that will be different by orders of magnitude from anything we've known.
People are going to need real 21st-century skills: adaptability, resourcefulness, the ability to play with obstacles, like ginga, that capoeira principle where you don't meet force head-on, you move with it.
People will need hyperfocus. They'll need the ability to navigate their own mind creatively.
And what we've called "altered states," flow state, out-of-body experiences, the ability to move consciousness, those are going to become some of the most prized skills on earth.
So we decided to make something very simple and very radical: to demonstrate what a world run by Eros would look like.
Because when Eros is at the center, your baseline experience becomes surplus.
And what flows from you carries that signal.
This isn't navel-gazing. It isn't self-improvement for its own sake.
The litmus test of the practice is: what actual, hands-on benefit does it bring to the misunderstood, the cast out, the persecuted?
And benefit means this: how well does it transform those people into the greatest asset of society.
That's the radical proposition.
Not just "fix them." Not just "help them."
Make them the leaders. Make them the guides.
Make them the ones who show us the way into a more compassionate, more connected world.

[Nicole Daedone @NicoleDaedone]

Her signal is what steers the world. If her signal is not clear, you will have chaos.

[Nicole Daedone @NicoleDaedone]

So proud of Free Food Harlem being shared about on the House floor today. What ties together all the endeavors I touch is that they are built according to the principle of Eros, which takes poison—addiction, food insecurity, prisons, sexuality and its various encumbered expressions of violation, procreation, and recreation, impersonal consumerism, and our view of women and marginalized people—and transforms it into medicine. The signature is not just making it “not bad” or better, but recognizing these dimensions of humanity as those with the greatest potential and elevating them to the superior path. When I design, I ask the question: What does this want to be? What is the most realized form of this issue or system, if it had all the tools and resources it needed to transform into that which transforms? We take what is considered disposable and use it to make something artful. I always say that when one of our projects is complete, everyone will want it, even though it was what no one wanted before. All of this is done with an eye toward the near future—the AI Singularity—aimed at preparing the hearts, souls, and minds of people for what I believe will be different by orders of magnitude from anything we’ve seen. People will need 21st-century skills: adaptability, resourcefulness, the ability to play with obstacles (ginga), hyperfocus, and the capacity to navigate the mind in creative ways. What we call “out-of-body” experiences, or facility with altered states—the flow state—will be among the most prized skill sets.

[Nicole Daedone @NicoleDaedone]

While I cannot speak in person, it is so meaningful to be able to be connected. Enjoy my talk to the Women Over Dinner last night, spoken by my AI avatar. 90 women joined around the table to share in food, connection, and power. Free women free women.