my mom once told me “accountability will always feel like an attack when you are not ready to acknowledge how your behavior harms others” and that shit is real.
The brain can't determine reality. It can only determine its own predictions about reality. You don’t see reality, you see your brain’s best guess of it.
This is called predictive coding in neuroscience.
As boring as it sounds, I’m slowly realizing that 90% of success is doing the obvious thing for a painfully long amount of time without convincing yourself you’re smarter than you are.