My father #arthurashman has died.. my dad was super successful & self made, he was a renowned oral surgeon & the inventor of htr which is a hard tissue replacement used for dentistry & other surgeries..he grew up struggling in a family where my grandfather had 3 jobs 2 make ends meet.. my dad was the first person in his family to go to college(#columbiauniversity)& then the army b4 making it big! my father & I had a very complicated relationship..we were both very stubborn & I know I was not an easy kid ..my parents were divorced when I was a toddler & I would sometimes not see him for years at a time as a child..when at age 12 I was kicked out of my house my father would not help me financially because his biggest fear was that I would be a “rich kid” lol he wanted me to earn success like he had! I had to get my own apartment and started throwing parties 2 pay my rent while still going 2 jr high school..even when times were tough & I struggled to eat he made it clear I was on my own..this caused lots of resentment & again we would not talk for long periods of time..once I graduated college & opened my 1st club as a owner at age 23 we got close again, although I always felt my dad wanted me to be a doctor not a entrepreneur/club owner & film producer lol ..
even though we both had trouble saying it my dad & I loved each other very much..he was a hero 2 me & 1 of the smartest people I ever met, he always gave me brilliant advice that helped me immensely over the years..as I grew up I realized my father & I were a lot alike, both very set in our ways & thick headed lol .. but recently I was able to tell my dad how much I loved him & how much his advice helped me ..it was really the first time I was able to say it so clearly & it gives me great comfort 2 know that he knew how I felt!
It took me hours 2 write this as I can’t stop crying I just can’t believe I won’t see u again!
I love u dad more then u could ever know, thx for all ur wisdom & guidance..im sorry i was not always the perfect son but I hope when u look down on me I make u proud.. i will always be grateful that I was your child..i will love u forever dad rest peacefully your son #noelashman