So much of life is about finding meaning in living one day out of the seven. Its about doing everything in ur power to hold off ending it all tell that singular day out of the week comes. That one day that rejuvenates you enough to withstand the pressure the other 6 days bring..
Get a notebook & label it “My hyperpersonalized philosophy." Write there ONLY the principles, habits & strategies that consistently led to positive outcomes in YOUR life. Regularly revisit & refine that philosophy as you evolve —let it be your personal guide for future decisions.
Been thinking a lot about the people I want my future kids to be and realised that perhaps the most infantile masculine delusion of them all is that you get to choose who your son will become
Chronological age = time lived.
IQ = processing ceiling.
Suffering = forced contact with reality.
Integration = conversion of experience into consciousness.
Maturity = consciousness stabilised into moral seriousness, good judgment and self-command.
Jacob wrestled the angel all night, and would not let go even after his hip snapped. he walked away limping, with a new name. that is how it works. you do not get blessed without being broken by the same hand
reality is that your life will be shaped massively by only a handful of people, max 30 and more like 10-15 for most. most people in your life are there and with you thru circumstance and chance and no nothing to alter your trajectory.
There is no shortcut to strength and this is why most men are weak. they want muscle without the tearing, they want wisdom without the years of being stupid, they want God without the desert. the body does not lie. you cannot fake a squat, you cannot charm a deadlift. the weight does not care about your story or your childhood or your excuse, it is just there and either you move it or you dont. and in that moment every lie you told yourself that week dies, because iron does not negotiate. iron is a prophet that only speaks one word, truth. and every rep is true and every set is true. and when you finally walk out of that room you are cleaner than you were when you walked in, because you are more honest. the weight took the lies out of you
Life fucks up nearly everybody; hands them unfortunate backgrounds + unforeseen tradgedy. Only quite a few come out unscathed. Daring to establish order in the face of insurmountable chaos is the real test. If you think you can, you will. And if you think you can't, you won't.
Killer trait is to be able to look at something u do frequently and conclude it’s retarded and pivot to something smarter. Amazingly rarer than u think.
All of us, in our darkest nights, have called out to something greater than ourselves. There is a kind of pain that will make you remember your god - whichever one you serve.
friendship is something you maintain, not something you assume will always be there. when effort disappears, so does the level of closeness that used to exist.
Eventually, you will accept that you carry contradictions. You can be grateful and dissatisfied at the same time. Hopeful and cautious. Capable and tired. Good and bad to different or even the same people. Life has no default settings.
Frankly, I do not see doubt as the opposite of faith. Doubt is what keeps belief from becoming delusion. Anything that cannot survive questioning was never sacred to begin with.
A man's patience is a limited resource that should be primarily reserved for those who matter most to him. For all else, civility, and where they prove insolent: intolerance.
Never underestimate people's ability to fail to recognise, or even worse, recognise but not appreciate and appropriately reward talent.
To give what is deserved to those who deserve it is a form of justice, and justice is generally the exception, not the rule.