You can’t think your way to awakening. At some point, the mind has to bow. To transcend your mind, you have to betray the voice that always thinks it’s right.
We dress it up, give it a name, add some feelings to it. But a lot of what passes for relationships in our world is just transactional behaviour with romantic packaging.
Being shy keeps you safe from rejection. Being broke keeps you below the radar of people who might envy you. Being sick gets you care you do not know how to ask for directly. Being stuck means you never have to find out if you would have succeeded.
Every old identity holds a secret reward, and until you find yours and satisfy that want in another way, the subconscious will resist abandoning the old identity, because something in you still deeply wants what it provides.
The secret is simple, just do more. do more than you've ever done, do more than you've ever seen, do more than you've been told, do more than the most, do more than the best, do more when you're tired, do more when you're winning. just do more at every chance you get to decide how much you do.
because the people who win in life usually just do more than everyone else. more work. more reps. more discipline. more sacrifice. most of us stop when things get uncomfortable, but they keep going a little longer. they push a little harder. they stay focused a little more. success rarely belongs to the most talented person first. it usually belongs to the person willing to outlast everyone else.
life is a quiet war of repetition and volume that nobody sees behind the scenes. every extra hour, every extra attempt, every extra sacrifice slowly compounds into something bigger than you can imagine right now.
and one day, one opportunity changes everything. but getting that one opportunity only takes everything.
when a bird is alive, it eats ants. when the bird is gone, ants eat the bird. look, time and circumstances can shift anytime so do not belittle, undermine, hurt or mock anyone, life is slippery. you may be powerful today but remember time is stronger than you.
You will never outperform your self-image, this is one of the most important things ever said about human behavior and almost nobody understands what it really means, your self-image is the picture you carry inside your head of who you are, what you're capable of, what you deserve, and what's possible for you, and your entire life is just your nervous system executing the orders of that picture, you don't behave according to what you want, you don't behave according to what you say, you don't behave according to your goals, you behave according to who you secretly believe you are, and the gap between where you are and where you want to be is almost always the exact gap between your real self-image and the one you keep trying to talk yourself into.
The plastic surgeon Maxwell Maltz figured this out in the 1950s when he noticed that some patients, even after he fixed their face perfectly, still walked out of his office feeling ugly, and others with minor cosmetic changes walked out feeling brand new, the surgery didn't matter, what mattered was whether the internal picture had changed, and he wrote a book called Psycho-Cybernetics in 1960 that became the foundation of basically every self-development book that came after it, his point was simple, the brain operates like a guided missile that locks onto whatever self-image you've installed, and it will steer you, sabotage you, and bring you home to that image no matter how hard your conscious mind fights, you can win the lottery and end up broke again in two years if your self-image is "poor person," you can lose 50 pounds and gain it back if your self-image is "fat person," you can land your dream job and quietly destroy it if your self-image is "not good enough," because the brain experiences any mismatch between reality and self-image as a problem to be corrected, and it always corrects toward the image.
This is why goal-setting, willpower, motivation, and discipline almost always fail in the long run, they're all happening at the level of behavior while the self-image underneath stays exactly the same, you can't out-discipline a self-image, you can't motivate yourself past it for more than a few weeks before it pulls you back, the only real way to change your life is to change the picture first, and the picture changes through repeated vivid imagination, especially in the relaxed state right before sleep and right after waking, when the critical part of your mind goes quiet and the subconscious actually listens, you spend ten or fifteen minutes a day living inside the version of you you want to become, with full sensory detail, with the feeling of it already being true, you do that consistently for a few months and the internal picture genuinely shifts, and once the picture shifts the behavior follows by itself, no daily battle required, because now your subconscious is steering you toward a different home.
Everyday you have a choice. Everyday you have the opportunity to make something out of the cards you’ve been dealt. Never let negativity or others convince you otherwise. Stay the course.
NEVER DOOM.
people love calling it karma when someone who treated them badly starts struggling, but sometimes it’s not about you at all. you’re witnessing the consequences of patterns they’ve been repeating with everyone else. calling someone a bum after the breakup and calling it karma when they were already a bum the entire time is hilarious. that’s not karma..
Life is very subjective, let people express their beliefs and experiences without trying to judge it from your own lens. We are all living for the first time, no one has this thing called life figured out. What works for one might fail for another. Let people be. Also, be kind!
In life.. you really have to face those internal demons. Nothing else will matter until you do. Once you do, you unlock a version of you that would have been unknown if you hadn’t