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Giving birth to a baby with Down syndrome, or worse, cerebral palsy, or choosing to terminate the pregnancy is a dilemma with no right side.
The reason humans bear and raise children is because it is rewarding like literally nothing else.
There is no other reason.
It gives life purpose.
But there is absolutely nothing rewarding about raising a child who will never grow.
When raising a child with cerebral palsy, there is neither hope nor reward.
You do not hope they will become better. They never will.
And they will require lifelong care
No matter how strong your maternal instincts are, looking at the baby will always bring you sorrow.
You will put a lot of extra care into them because they require it, but there will be nothing rewarding about it.
Intrinsically, somewhere in your heart, you will hate that child.
You will internally detest them.
And it will make your own life miserable.
But should they be terminated before they are born?
It is still a life.
And advocating for ending pregnancies because of such defects is a very slippery slope.
I am always wary of slippery slopes.
There are simply no right sides.
So no matter what decision you take...
I believe that in anything you do, if people cannot collectively judge you as evil, then perhaps God likely will not.
@iamklausenburg It is probably just dragging you through fire. If you make it through the fire, you become greatness.
If you do not make it...
Well, then you just did not make it.
I would cast my bets on you, though.
@drabdulhameed07 There was a time where miscarriages meant a woman was spiritually โeatingโ her babies or was very promiscuous, so sheโs being punished for her promiscuity.
I am grateful to God for the advancement in science that has helped fix situations like this.
While praying,see a Doctor
I know a yahoo boy who spent over 2 months nursing a client he thought was his victim.
He sent her flowers, gifts, everything, just to build her trust and make her believe he was real. At one point he spent over $200 on a single gift.
When the time came, he expected her to pay him $5,000. She sent a payment slip and he lost his mind with excitement. Got drunk, went on a full celebration, waiting for his Azaman to confirm the funds in 2 to 3 days.
On the fourth day, his Azaman told him nothing had come in.
He reached out to the woman. Her response:
"I've always known you're a scammer. But I enjoyed your company, so I kept the chat going. I never sent any money. That slip was edited."
He almost fainted.
The irony? He was celebrating scamming someone, but the moment the script flipped on him, he couldn't handle it.
What you dish, you must be ready to receive.
Scamming is never the way, young men and women. Go legitimate.
Above all, love God.
I know a yahoo boy who spent over 2 months nursing a client he thought was his victim.
He sent her flowers, gifts, everything, just to build her trust and make her believe he was real. At one point he spent over $200 on a single gift.
When the time came, he expected her to pay him $5,000. She sent a payment slip and he lost his mind with excitement. Got drunk, went on a full celebration, waiting for his Azaman to confirm the funds in 2 to 3 days.
On the fourth day, his Azaman told him nothing had come in.
He reached out to the woman. Her response:
"I've always known you're a scammer. But I enjoyed your company, so I kept the chat going. I never sent any money. That slip was edited."
He almost fainted.
The irony? He was celebrating scamming someone, but the moment the script flipped on him, he couldn't handle it.
What you dish, you must be ready to receive.
Scamming is never the way, young men and women. Go legitimate.
Above all, love God.
Giving birth to a baby with Down syndrome, or worse, cerebral palsy, or choosing to terminate the pregnancy is a dilemma with no right side.
The reason humans bear and raise children is because it is rewarding like literally nothing else.
There is no other reason.
It gives life purpose.
But there is absolutely nothing rewarding about raising a child who will never grow.
When raising a child with cerebral palsy, there is neither hope nor reward.
You do not hope they will become better. They never will.
And they will require lifelong care
No matter how strong your maternal instincts are, looking at the baby will always bring you sorrow.
You will put a lot of extra care into them because they require it, but there will be nothing rewarding about it.
Intrinsically, somewhere in your heart, you will hate that child.
You will internally detest them.
And it will make your own life miserable.
But should they be terminated before they are born?
It is still a life.
And advocating for ending pregnancies because of such defects is a very slippery slope.
I am always wary of slippery slopes.
There are simply no right sides.
So no matter what decision you take...
I believe that in anything you do, if people cannot collectively judge you as evil, then perhaps God likely will not.
Unpopular Opinion.
Iโm gonna be mean and truthful with this post.
Women who birth babies with Down syndrome are wicked and heartless.
I believe before you birth your baby, you did scan, if the fetus is not perfectly okay, it will be detected, so why not opt for an abortion.
Why bring children into this world to suffer, do you know the pains they go through.
All this can be prevented, but No, we choose sympathy over necessity.
I know lot of people will be against this post but itโs the truth.
Stop bringing babies you know have Down syndrome and you canโt take care of them.
Nigeria is not a working country, if itโs abroad, you will get help.
A single mother in her late 30s was dating a divorced man in his 60s.
He took good care of her and her child.
Infact, the child and the man had started doing father-child bonding, and he was even doing school runs.
He rented an apartment for her and furnished it and everything was good.
Single mother said that she wanted more and marriage.
Man wasn't interested in marriage but wanted to keep her as his mistress and said he doesn't want any child too.
Single mother got connected to a man living abroad, and the man came to Nigeria to see her.
The man promised her marriage and got her pregnant.
The other man warned her but she said she was "in love" with the abroad man.
Single mother carried the pregnancy to term and gave birth to the child.
Child developed complications and didn't survive after a few months.
Abroad man abandoned single mother and stopped picking her calls and blocked her.
Former man had moved on and dissociated himself from single mother and the child that he had bonded with for over two years.
Single mother could no longer afford the rent and school fees of the school where former man was graciously paying for.
Now single mother is living in regrets.
Man has found another mistress and is now bonding with the new mistress and her child.
New mistress lives pretty close to former mistress, and man goes to see new mistress in the full glare of former mistress, and has bought new mistress a car while former mistress treks and is looking dejected.
End.
@EzekielOluwada6@jon_d_doe The child will survive. She will adjust to whatever level of living her mother can afford to give her.
But the mother has made her bed...
Youre right and I'll tell you why because I can.
Given the circumstances of his marriage, they expect him to be miserable - as per Nollywood.
They hate that he seemed to cover all bases - prenup, marriage, divorce + custody, removal of his ex as dependant, exoneration from DV claims and he is unapologetically loud.
They don't care about whatever circumstances surrounded the marriage or dissolution just hate the fact that "a cheating gurl took an L".
They hate that they can't troll him for his looks, career, pockets or his ability to pull 10s as he pleases + he is young. So why not zoom in, on his nostrils.
Was he doing too much publicly at some point? Relatively yes.
But I can rationally charge it to two possible factors:
1. He was genuinely also deeply affected by the way the marriage turned out & the repeated public crashout + need for some kind of validation was a necessary step to putting it behind,
2. When a situation puts you on the spotlight for the very first time, a lot of people don't know how to leverage on the overwhelming first round of applause & hang it there - they stretch it until the balance tilts.
These are my honest assessments.
Do these assessments justify the vitriol he's getting from women currently? No.
He seems to be doing well and they hate his guts.
The honest-to-god truth might be that - he might not be doing that well emotionally but he has refused to allow weakness be his public identity and doesn't conform to their definition of "humble".
I feel that if your darkest side and your worst deeds are exposed, and you can still stand tall and do not feel like self-deleting,
then you are relatively a good person.
No matter how much you make or earn as a woman, the kitchen will always be your domain. Now matter how much you make, you're still under your husband.
That you're a billionaire as a woman doesn't mean that you should stop cooking for your husband. Your money is to support him not to take you away from his leadership.
"Once your wife is growing and improving, you should be improving tooo so that you will still be steps ahead of her.
A leader should be ahead of the congregation in all ramifications."
Above all, love God.
When you guys talk about 50/50 and 100/100, you only mean it in the sense of the woman taking on the man's traditional responsibility of providing.
Will you still go 50/50 or 100/100 in childbearing?
How about nurturing the child?
What about the changes childbearing makes to a woman's body? Does the man take part in that as well?
When are you people going to acknowledge that this 50/50 nonsense is simply the other side of the same ridiculous feminist agenda we have opposed so fiercely?