@larpple@Hrtz6 what kind of stories can you even get though? "I (F25) and my boyfriend (M25) had sex, he pulled out but I still got pregnant. That's it. that's the story."
i want somebody who WANTS to go out with me and WANTS to spend time with me and WANTS to go adventuring and WANTS to listen to me talk about my day and ENJOYS who i am and who i want to be and i'll be the exact same way for them. that's what i want right now
@getintelo@kuchikkiii for me it was like wtf is this and before I noticed I had already posted something and that was prob the case for most people. even so every one I've seen is from people I know so its kinda fun, my accidental post is my kitty and its a fire pic
So l actually just looked this up and apparently it's true.. middle children are dwindling.
In the 1970's, it was common to have three or four children. Today, almost 65% of women with children only have one or two. So the "middle child" is becoming increasingly rare. The fact that middle children are going extinct is the most middle child thing I've ever heard.
You have to stop treating it like a performance where you are trying to become the best version of yourself. It is not theatre. It is not self transformation day after day. You do it the way you brush your teeth. It is not about liking or disliking it. It is simply something you do.
The moment you frame working out as a heroic arc, you introduce emotion into it. Motivation, inspiration, identity, self judgment. That makes it unstable. Some days you will feel like the protagonist. Most days you will not.
But brushing your teeth requires no identity. No inspiration. No self analysis.
It is maintenance. When exercise becomes maintenance rather than self-improvement theatre, it becomes lighter. Less ego. Less pressure. Less evaluation.