We met on FB, had the best DM chats of my life! Never met a confident person like my husband. I feel super safe and loved. This best friend of mine is so supportive😍 #FlamedCouples
“This boy was carrying his dead brother on his back to bury him In Japan, during the war A soldier noticed him and asked him to throw this dead child so that he would not get tired. The boy replied: He's not heavy, that's my brother!" The soldier understood and broke down in tears. Since then, this image has become a symbol of unity in Japan Let this be our motto too : "He's not heavy. He's my brother... She's my sister!" If he falls, raise him up. If he backslide restore him If he gets tired, help him. If he needs support, stand with him, If he makes a mistake, correct him! And if the world abandons him, then carry him like God has been carrying you, He surely is not heavy. Because he is my brother or she is my sister!". Look out for one another! Blessed Weekend
“As we continue fighting amongst ourselves, pointing fingers at each other and blaming one another instead of pulling each other together and fighting for progress and a worthy cause, the enemy will always seize the opportunity to destroy us, one by one, because our hatred for each other is blinding us to see the danger and read the writing on the wall.” ~ Mzilikazi wa Afrika #WakeUpEverybody ✊🏿
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We all want secure attachment.
And the best part of our attachment patterns is we can shift them. Through self awareness, practice, and healthy communication.
People with secure attachment have 3 core traits:
1. The ability to not take things personally: this gives them space to understand people close to them aren’t attacking them. It also makes it so they can get to self reflection.
2. The ability to self reflect: this is actually more rare than people realize. Those with secure attachment can self reflect. They can ask “is there truth here?” “Is this valid?” If it is, they face it and begin to integrate. Integration is why people with secure attachment patterns tend to grow and evolve more than those with insecure patterns.
3. The ability to be accountable for their impact: if they self reflect and see that someone has a point, they can be accountable. Instead of deflecting or being defensive they can say “I see where you’re coming from” and “I’m sorry and want to do better.” They create a space to have conversations which is why people in their lives feel safe and heard.
All of us can practice these traits. It’s about hearing things in new ways and responding in new ways. You’ll see how differently people engage with us when we’re not trying to defend our self image or deny their reality.