Progress L. Oladimeji-Abimbola BNSc,MPH,MSc.

The therapist & Mental Hlth Pract,UKRN,
Life & Positivity Enthusiast,
Sexuality Educator,
Sexual Hlth &Gender Advocate,
Storyteller,
IyawoSeun,Mum 'Teni & 'Tise

[Progress L. Oladimeji-Abimbola BNSc,MPH,MSc. @officiallypee]

I affirm

[Kenny Oluwatosin RN, Msc. @Nrs_Kethz]

Dear nurse,

Keep your personal life private. Your coworkers are strangers. You didn't know they existed before you started working there.‼️

[Progress L. Oladimeji-Abimbola BNSc,MPH,MSc. @officiallypee]

A young lady asked me a few days ago, how did you know he was your husband....I told her that a well formed frontal lobe is a plus all the way! Marry not just for money and flex....a good thinking faculty will most likely weather through most storms of life. God be with us all.

[Progress L. Oladimeji-Abimbola BNSc,MPH,MSc. @officiallypee]

For a minute, I honestly thought it was my husband who wrote it. Cheers to all the good men out out there. May we(the good women) always give you the peace and love you deserve. Amen

[Dr Joe Abah, OON @DrJoeAbah]

I understand that today is #InternationalMensDay. Some have encouraged men to talk about their mental health. Let me talk about mine. You can do any psychoanalysis you want. I don’t care. I just want to vent as a man.

As a man, I am likely to die before a woman of the same age. I can’t complain though. I think I got a good deal biologically. No bodily changes each month. No need to enhance my hair, eye lashes, eye brows, ears, lips, nails, etc. I can just shower, brush my hair, use a moisturiser and go!

I think that my life is a life of sacrifice. I have to protect and provide. I don’t mind that but it can be hard sometimes. I can’t complain though. I think it’s harder having to give birth, nurturing a family, and still be expected to provide as well. And to still have to protect my man from harm, including his inclination for self harm.

Sometimes, I don’t want to talk. I would like some time to think and plan. That I am not talking doesn’t mean there is anything wrong. It doesn’t mean there’s any issue between us. I just crave some silence.

As a man, I solve problems by thinking, not by talking it over with anyone. That I want some time to myself doesn’t mean I am not blissfully happy in your presence or that I want to be with another woman or to hang with boys. It’s just me and my brain.

However, I have been told that that doesn’t work in a relationship. I can’t complain though. After all, it’s not only me. I have to accommodate the fact that my woman may prefer to solve problems by talking them through. I hear that the approach of talking through problems is the better approach. It doesn’t work for me though. I would rather analyse the issue and think through a clear path to a solution BEFORE I talk about it.

It is not that I want to exclude my woman. I just want to deal with the issue the best way I know how. I feel that by the time I come to talk about it, I should have a plan. I believe that having a plan will reassure my woman. I don’t want to go into a discussion of the problem without at least the makings of a plan.

I actually never feel under-appreciated. I don’t feel
the need for any appreciation. I have a duty to do and I just do it. I can’t complain. It’s not a competition. If it were, I would lose every time because her job is harder than mine. However, there is blood flowing through my own veins too.

With financial and career success, my needs have actually become very few. Just love, food, alcohol, sex and peace. However, I must accept that my spouse may want more. Like more talk. More romance. More show of affection. I must try harder.

I feel incredibly lucky. I can’t imagine changing my surname and taking another person’s surname. Some even take the surname AND first name ( like Mariam Joe-Abah). Why? 🤷🏽‍♂️ I can’t imagine leaving my church or religion to take on my spouse’s. I won’t do that for anybody. I also won’t have spent all day at work and come back home to cook for anybody. Not even for myself! So, I can’t complain.

I know that no one is coming to save me. It’s me against the world. I am expected to always be the bigger person. After all, I must never be caught “behaving like a woman.” However, do not be surprised if I say No sometimes. Don’t be surprised if I am sometimes stubborn just for the sake of it, even when there is no apparent benefit from that stubbornness. Don’t be confused about the fact that I am not afraid of death or scared of any living being.

Finally, I am
Incredibly lucky to have the love of a good woman. I am a man. That is who I am. Everything I’ve said is not me complaining. I actually feel incredibly privileged and you don’t know how content I am. Still, today is a good day to celebrate me. When I’m dead, it won’t matter to me anymore.

Happy #InternationalMensDay to all men out there.

End of rant! 😂

[Progress L. Oladimeji-Abimbola BNSc,MPH,MSc. @officiallypee]

@Laaishar These ones are Saudi and Qatari princesses.

[Progress L. Oladimeji-Abimbola BNSc,MPH,MSc. @officiallypee]

@proudnursemj Congratulations to all Nigerian nurses. This is a win for us all.

[𝑵𝒖𝒓𝒔𝒆𝑴𝑱™️ @proudnursemj]

Dear Nigerian Nurses! Congratulations 🇳🇬

Finally… the verification portal is back up!
Well done to everyone who fought for this….

You can use this link to apply asap..
https://t.co/Wz14AYptJD

some of my colleagues were getting error messages initially… but it seems alright now… I got a friend to send me a screenshot…

All the best guys…
Cheers 🥂

[Progress L. Oladimeji-Abimbola BNSc,MPH,MSc. @officiallypee]

@Nrs_Kethz It beats, amidst all the drama, this is the one that I will never be able to understand. Uhmm

[Progress L. Oladimeji-Abimbola BNSc,MPH,MSc. @officiallypee]

@Gideonvalor @kelvin_alaneme Make it make sense to me, I don't get you!

[Progress L. Oladimeji-Abimbola BNSc,MPH,MSc. @officiallypee]

@kelvin_alaneme Aptly put together. Thank you for the insight.

[Progress L. Oladimeji-Abimbola BNSc,MPH,MSc. @officiallypee]

@Oluomoofderby Sad, very sad

[Progress L. Oladimeji-Abimbola BNSc,MPH,MSc. @officiallypee]

@AdaErema Correct feeling. I started in January, it's bliss.

[Progress L. Oladimeji-Abimbola BNSc,MPH,MSc. @officiallypee]

@Nigeria_NMC They can't even post a clear picture. Smh

[Progress L. Oladimeji-Abimbola BNSc,MPH,MSc. @officiallypee]

Be a person of good character.
No amount of praying or anointing covers for bad character until we get intentional and work on our flaws!

[Progress L. Oladimeji-Abimbola BNSc,MPH,MSc. @officiallypee]

Finally, allow siblings to be siblings.
They have known themselves all their lives, in good, bad, and ugly times they will be blood🤣.
Pray for them, speak postively, and allow them be.......they will be alright 👍.
You are not their dad or mom, just take your place and flex.

[Progress L. Oladimeji-Abimbola BNSc,MPH,MSc. @officiallypee]

As a partner and a wife, I have seen the dynamics of relationships at varying levels, and one that interests me is one shared among siblings.

[Progress L. Oladimeji-Abimbola BNSc,MPH,MSc. @officiallypee]

Don't attempt to pitch siblings against each other. Face your own partner, who you are a wife or husband to. Don't be in haste to take sides or hold briefs. In the end, they are siblings. Lol.