I really don’t like the way a lot of us talk about our hypothetical children before those children even exist. There’s so much emphasis on “showing them who’s boss”,“dealing with them” or making sure they’re afraid of you. It makes me wonder whether we’ve truly examined the parenting we experienced ourselves. Please, we need to unlearn a lot of the things that were done to us simply because we believe we “turned out fine.”
Children will absolutely test your patience. They’ll push boundaries, make mistakes and frustrate you. That’s part of being a child. But you’re the adult. You’re the one with the fully developed brain, the life experience and the responsibility to be more emotionally regulated.
your abusive father controlled his temper around coworkers, neighbors, friends, church members, cashiers, & strangers.
then he brought the rage home to people with less power to leave.
that was a choice he kept making.
Beat children for being dyslexic,
Beat them for bedwetting,
Beat them for not having emotional intelligence, beat them for talking too loud, beat them for not talking at all, beat them saying they don’t like something, beat them for liking something.
You came into this world to be an abuser to the one group of humans who deserve the most patience and know NOTHING about social cues yet.
The Nigerian definition of well behaved is the ideal slave, colonized individual.
That’s why you lot think beatings work. Bc it doesn’t matter how the individual ends up, as long as they’re silent, non confrontational, docile and manageable.
The reason your mother fried Akara to send you to school is so that you can be a better citizen of the society and have a fighting chance against poverty. She didn't do it for you to come online and defend frying of Akara as economic empowerment. Don't waste her efforts.
In today’s Nigeria,
You need at least N10 million naira to buy a decent Nigerian-used car from 2008.
But relax, Tinubu is fixing Nigeria.
God will punish all of you campaigning for this man.
Nigeria has now been delisted from the International Maths Olympiad, whose finals are happening in Shanghai, China, this July.
It is one of the most prestigious academic competitions in the world.
Nigeria can now only participate as an observer nation, while other countries can participate fully.
This was because of the Ministry of Education’s inability to fund students for 4 consecutive years through National Mathematical Center.
It’s a big shame for Nigeria.