Imagine losing a woman who doesn't talk to multiple men, is well educated, family oriented, responsible, carries herself well, and has a pure heart...Embarrassing
Tolerating always turns to resentment. At first, you call it patience, then love. But what it really is, is self-abandonment. Every time you swallow a boundary, excuse a pattern, or silence your discomfort, something inside you keeps score.
And eventually, the bill comes due.
Ghislaine Maxwell is a convicted child sex trafficker. She gets gardening time, sports, therapy dogs, and spa products in prison.
Migrant children in custody are sleeping on concrete floors without enough food or clean water.
"One day you'll meet a guy who tells you how his ex cheated on him, how she broke his heart, how he can't trust anyone anymore. He'll sound wounded, soft, and sincere, and you'll feel sorry for him.
You'll want to prove that you're different, that not all women leave or lie.
But My advice is? Run. It's a trap. Because most of the time he's not healed he's just carrying unprocessed pain, anger, and trust issues. And instead of fixing them, he'll slowly make you pay for what another woman did to him.
And like Miley Cyrus said:
“I didn’t talk badly about you—I talked about what you did to me. If that makes you look bad, that’s not my problem anymore.”
I want the kind of money that lets me show up for my people. Even if I can’t fix everything, i want to at least soften the moment. To send food. To send transport fare. To send ice-cream money on a hard day.
I’m tired of only saying “sorry.”
Nobody likes you when you're depressed.
Plain and simple. We can talk all day about mental health and how important it is, but the moment you are depressed, people start to distance themselves. They see you as negative, a burden, and someone too heavy to handle.
the difficulty in buying flowers is not in buying her flowers. it's keeping her in mind. it's having a part of your brain always on and devoted to her small joys and comfort. this is why if you have to ask for flowers it entirely defeats the purpose.
this is also why "look it's us" works so well, it's code for "you are so cherished and precious that everything reminds me of you."