Some nights I still pick up my phone and check for a message I already know isn’t coming. Not because I’m waiting for a text, but because a part of me misses how things used to be. It’s strange how someone can go from being the first person you talk to every day to someone you no longer hear from at all. The conversation ended, but the habit of missing them never really did.
A dismissive avoidant won’t fight for you.
They’ll just wait for you to give up, so they don’t have to be the bad guy.
It’s cowardly behavior...
Most aren’t honorable, and their character often mirrors their relationship patterns distant, defensive, and dishonest.
Pulling someone you once loved out of your routine is so weird, your mind that this person was a frequent part of your life and then suddenly vanishes. Some people get really down about it, and others might even lose their minds. Depends on how hard you love though.
if love ever finds me again, may the universe let me meet someone who loves me as deep as i do. Someone who is never okay with hurting me. Someone who is loyal, kind & devoted. Someone who will never make me feel unwanted, someone who feels like home & also finds home in me.
Nothing could have prepared me for the biblically accurate levels of confusion produced by an avoidant saying “i’ve never felt this way about anyone” immediately followed by “i need to be alone”
please if you are no longer interested in someone let them know. slowly distancing yourself, ignoring calls, and giving halfhearted responses hurts them more than simply being honest.