Relationships nowadays is you’ll love a person, then you have to pretend like you don’t love the person because if you show the person that you love the person too much, the person will love you less. So pretending that you don’t love the person will make the person love you more. How did we get here???
i find it very attractive when people apologise for responding late, or when they tell you they’re unable to talk to you, the skill of communication is just so attractive
Ni talaka ne, to ta yaya zan yi aure?
Allah Maɗaukaki Yace:
وَأَنكِحُوا الْأَيَامَى مِنكُمْ وَالصَّالِحِينَ مِنْ عِبَادِكُمْ وَإِمَائِكُمْ إِن يَكُونُوا فُقَرَاءَ يُغْنِهِمُ اللَّهُ مِن فَضْلِهِ وَاللَّهُ وَاسِعٌ عليم
"Ku aurar da waɗanda ba su da aure daga cikinku, da kuma na ƙwarai daga cikin bayinku maza da mata. Idan sun kasance talakawa, Allah zai wadatar da su daga falalarsa. Allah Mai yalwa ne kuma Masani."
(Suratun Nūr: 32).
Abdullah ibn Mas’ud (RA) ya ce: “Ku nemi arziki ta hanyar aure,” sannan ya karanta wannan ayar ta sama.
Umar bn Khattab (RA) ya ce: “Ina mamakin wanda ba ya neman wadata ta hanyar yin aure, alhali Allah Ya ce: ‘Idan sun kasance talakawa, Allah zai wadatar da su daga falalarsa.’”
Idan har kana da sana'a wadda kake iya riƙe kanka da ita, kuma za ka iya riƙe mace da ita, to kawai ka nemi taimakon Allah ka yi aure. Ka nemi mace wadda buƙatunta ba su fi ƙarfin samunka ba. Shi arziki na Allah ne, idan Allah Ya rubuta za ka yi, zai zo a lokacinsa, amma kada ka ce sai ka mallaki kuɗi mai yawa ko gida kafin ka yi aure.. Yawancin masu kuɗi, kuɗin ya zo ne bayan sun yi aure.
- Isa Sadi
I like quiet people. People who are simple, read books, can watch a 2 hour documentary about bees, are crazy smart, but still stay low-key and private.
this chapter of my life is called “why do i insist on over communicating & trying to find a deeper reason for their behavior so i can understand them more when i should just focus on the fact that their behavior is not aligning with what i need right now so i can move along."
@notsorealfgs - Read a significant portion of a book.
-Understand what the author is trying to convey
- Agree or disagree
-Put your thoughts down
- Look for ways to apply the lessons(if applicable)
- Rinse and repeat
- Then drink water
I’m terrible with cramming quotes or words, I can read a whole book without remembering an actual sentence but I understand the writers message and vision.