@devaraj227 This is totally caused by participating in spiritualities which bussy themselves with those interim realms. Not only the greatest such as Plotinus, Ramana Maharishi and Buddha advised against this, Abrahamic religion in general also denies such business because of this.
@RationalMale Thanks. Can this be established after an early phase during which you were the initiating lover yet now want a transition to that grounded form of relation?