when you're dealing with someone who makes you feel like you want them way more than they want you, it can make you feel crazy, even worse, go crazy. so go where you're wanted, adored, and loved on. idc how much you love them, if you stay, you'll pay in suffering, so pls just go.
The fact that CHESS is divided into gendered leagues should tell you something about the real history and reasons behind the gender division of sports.
Men are scared of being made to look inferior to women.