Losing a pet produces grief that is clinically comparable to losing a human family member, and a 2021 study in BMC Geriatrics found that older women who lost a companion animal experienced impacts on their physical health, daily routines, and sense of purpose that lasted for months.
The study explored the lived experience of pet bereavement in older women and found themes of profound loneliness, loss of daily structure, and a sense that a piece of their identity had died with the animal. The women described losing not just a companion but a reason to get up in the morning, a reason to walk, and a reason to talk.
The grief is often dismissed. "It was just a dog" is a sentence that pet owners hear from people who have never had the relationship, and the dismissal compounds the pain. Disenfranchised grief, the term psychologists use for grief that society does not validate, makes the mourner feel they have no right to their own pain, which delays recovery and deepens isolation.
The bond between a person and a pet is not a lesser version of a human bond. Brain imaging studies show that the same regions activated by looking at a photograph of a child are activated by looking at a photograph of a beloved dog. The attachment system does not check species. It checks connection.
If you know someone who just lost a pet and you are wondering whether to send flowers or a card, send it. The research says the grief is real, the loss is structural, and the person is mourning something the rest of the world keeps telling them is small. https://t.co/HR0l1R2Zov
We are back at the emergency vet with Scout tonight. Her breathing started to deteriorate this evening, and they had to remove almost 80 mL of fluid from her chest.
Thankfully, she is breathing much more comfortably now and is being discharged again tonight.
We are so excited to finally share that we are one of the five CNN Heroes for 2026! 🤗
This has been in the works for months, and it still feels surreal to finally be able to share it with everyone.
CNN spent three days with us in July following along with our rescue work.
Grief is Normal
The grieving process is normal and should not be shamed, shunned, nor silenced.
Grieving is not linear nor is it bound to specific schedule that everyone experiences the same way.
It could take seconds, days, months, or even years to heal.
Sometimes I think you get more views if you don't tweet as much.
If you're tweeting every 5 minutes, your tweets are continually getting pushed down your timeline and people will only scroll so far to see them.