@Tesslafun281@chadzizelman@JamieBonkiewicz If you think that Trump and the Clintons aren't on the same team, you are a delusional fool who needs to get out of the MAGA echo-chamber.
@guideforlovers Constructive criticism.
There are 3 types of problem communicators:
-Those who bottle up feelings until they burst
-Those who seek conflict
-Those who will communicate and solution-seek
Get yourself a partner who will work with you through the highs and lows of life.
@guideforlovers The problem is that we are emotional beings.
Sometimes emotions trump logic, and that's okay.
Just don't add fuel to the fire, and if you do want to talk about things, wait until you both can talk with level heads.
The harsh truth is that there is no universal blueprint for a happy relationship.
You have to find what works for you, what works for your partner, and then figure out how to bridge the gap.
@ZubyMusic People are, unfortunately, seeking a collective identity and are letting it completely define them.
I think there are a lot of people struggling with their individuality and thus are forfeiting it to the collective.
A significant aspect of love and intimacy is that there aren't exactly "one-size-fits-all" answers.
It's about discovering your love language.
Your partner's love language.
And with both of those, how do you bring them together in a healthy way?
@drquinngyn I will say this...
Move if you want but come back in 2028 to vote. Don't abandon those who are on your side.
To bring change, there has to be unity behind the movement that brings it.
Working on being a better partner?
That's great!
But remember that it will take time for your partner to adjust. They're not going to see you as a changed person instantly.
Stay consistent and show them that this isn't just temporary.
If you provide for your household, one of the best things you can do for your family is learn healthy stress management.
-Mindfulness routines
-Utilize a schedule/calendar
-Exercise
-Cut alcohol/tobacco
-Take breaks
-Practice affirmations
Your family should never be an outlet
I always read about how men can't look at, talk to, or approach women these days.
Am I the only one who thinks this is complete BS?
I force myself out of my comfort zone and talk to strangers in public all the time, no matter their gender.
I'm telling you.. It's your approach
We always hear discussions about "sh!t tests."
But what about bids?
Dr. John Gottman, who actually has credibility, studied couples over their first 6 years post-marriage and analyzed how couples handle these bids and their residual effects on said relationships.
Bids are any attempt that one partner makes, subtle or obvious, to get a positive connection from their significant other. This can be in the form of listening, affirming, comforting, etc. You get the point.
What he found?
Couples who stayed married turned towards one another 86% of the time.
Couples who ended in divorce turned towards one another only 33% of the time.
If you are in a relationship, don't complicate what it takes for you two to be happy.
Listen, listen more, and take action when requested. Be excited when your partner is excited and sympathetic when they are looking for sympathy.
And remember that not all problems need solving. Just provide support and take action when requested.
Not every problem has a solution, especially when it comes to relationships.
Instead, focus on communication and respect.
Can you discuss things as reasonable adults?