Pattie Hopp

[Pattie Hopp @Path80]

@Lydskia @jblairsanders If someone in the family wants a bunch of people invited that the bride and groom wouldn't ordinarily invite, that family member should be willing to cough up some money, but, you're right, they often don't.

[Pattie Hopp @Path80]

@Lydskia @jblairsanders So often, weddings become career advancement opportunities for the parents or even the bride and groom themselves. Parents sometimes want influential people in their companies invited even though neither the bride nor the groom knows them and the parents don't really either.

[Pattie Hopp @Path80]

@Lydskia @jblairsanders Obviously, I would include my fiance in the decision. I never said I wouldn't.

And choosing to allow young nieces and nephews to attend isn't giving into family demands. It's my choice.

[Pattie Hopp @Path80]

@macpherson_a @caroline_mpls According to you.

[Pattie Hopp @Path80]

@macpherson_a @caroline_mpls Nope, you're reading something that isn't there. Just pointing out options that could make it possible to include some kids in the guest list, if that's what's wanted.

[Pattie Hopp @Path80]

@macpherson_a @caroline_mpls Never said I 'd be pissy.

You seem to be an interesting piece of work.

[Pattie Hopp @Path80]

@TW0HEADEDBEAST Would the couple really enjoy the wedding if their guests didn't?

[Pattie Hopp @Path80]

@macpherson_a @caroline_mpls Just a factual statement. People plan their weddings based on what's important to them (their priorities), from who they invite (or don't invite), to what type of venue and food, whether they have a civil ceremony or a religious one, how much they spend.

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@JanisK1953 @bellabee13 Not dumb at all.

[Pattie Hopp @Path80]

@evil_liz @tiredmommy1010 @housewelf My siblings aren't hypothetical. They are very much real. My sister is now deceased, but she did exist.

[Pattie Hopp @Path80]

@evil_liz @tiredmommy1010 @housewelf ...Would you really do as you suggested and tell your parents to find a sitter or stay home and miss your wedding?

I'm going to guess you wouldn't, but that was the responses I got, when I got them.

[Pattie Hopp @Path80]

@evil_liz @tiredmommy1010 @housewelf No, it's not. You're happy with the scenarios you chose, but, based on what you've said, you didn't face the true scenarios I mentioned.

What would you do if you were the oldest in a large family and your youngest sibling was only 3 when you married?....

[Pattie Hopp @Path80]

@evil_liz @tiredmommy1010 @housewelf You didn't acknowledge the points I was making, even though they are valid. Why not express a little empathy for the people who are faced with those choices. For the most part, you didn't. You brushed them off and judged.

[Pattie Hopp @Path80]

@evil_liz @tiredmommy1010 @housewelf I have to use the information I have and I really haven't made that many assumptions. I pointed out where the options you chose might not work for everyone and was told "hire a sitter. It's simple," etc. I was accused of , essentially, lying (making things up).

[Pattie Hopp @Path80]

@tiredmommy1010 @TheFoxMatriarch Wow.

I guess renting the VFW Hall isn't such a bad idea.

[Pattie Hopp @Path80]

@megevhan @inkfycreates Yep. I've only been to a handful of weddings where there were absolutely no children. Most weddings had at least a few for various reasons.

[Pattie Hopp @Path80]

@tiredmommy1010 @evil_liz @housewelf Go ahead, skirt the point to avoid a conversation.

[Pattie Hopp @Path80]

@evil_liz @tiredmommy1010 @housewelf ***aren't made up

[Pattie Hopp @Path80]

@evil_liz @tiredmommy1010 @housewelf These scenarios are made up, yes, although I've heard of some of the F*off things happening. The other scenarios I mentioned about siblings, etc are made up.

But my question is still valid. I can do absolutely anything I want on my wedding day right?

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@tiredmommy1010 @TheFoxMatriarch Are they really that expensive?

I haven't been involved in the planning of a wedding in a long time so I don't know what the current costs are.

[Pattie Hopp @Path80]

@evil_liz @tiredmommy1010 @housewelf And you guys have said plenty to me and others. Accusing me of making up scenarios in my head is a good start.