Peter Jakob

PartnershipProjects services, training and consultancy in #NVR non violent resistence/systemic work for aggressive, violent, self-destructive behaviours

[Peter Jakob @peterjNVR]

So Musk has been agreeing with #antisemitic, #racist tweets and re-tweeting these to his followers. I don't want to use this platform any longer, as it's trending towards the fascist language that endangers tolerance, democracy and, ultimately, human beings. Good bye!

[PartnershipProjects @PartnershipProj]

New Podcast 💙🙏 "In light of recent events (war) taking our focus, we felt strongly to reflect on what builds peace." With @PeterJNVR & Shila Desai
https://t.co/q2w6PmQWoT

#PartnershipProjects #NVR #NONVIOLENTRESISTANCE #CPVA #cpv #nvrpodcast #nowar #PeaceNotWar #CAMHS #podcast

[Peter Jakob @peterjNVR]

This is an excellent opportunity for commissioners, managers and practitioners alike to take a step back and see how #NVR will enhance their organisations' performance and bring them closer to their service development goals and, importantly, their aspirations!

[PartnershipProjects @PartnershipProj]

📣FREE monthly Special Interest Groups (SPIG) virtual sessions📣

We are delighted to announce that from October we will be hosting SPIG for NVR professionals

https://t.co/mqRbBTg6bl

#PartnershipProjects #NVR #NONVIOLENTRESISTANCE #nvrpractitioner #nvrinschools #CAMHS #cpva

[Peter Jakob @peterjNVR]

Diagnosing - psychological formulation - we tells people who they are. Alternatives: witnessing distress, witnessing growing agency, supporting resistance to injustice, helping to connect & build community, showing curiosity, professional humility. #NVR #NarrativeTherapy

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

THIS IS GOING VIRAL SO I WANTED TO SHARE IT HERE TOO:

A bit from my past:

My first job after getting my PhD was working as a therapist for people from low socioeconomic backgrounds.

Almost all of them were diagnosed with depression, GAD, bipolar, or BPD. Most were highly medicated— some to a point that still sticks with me years later.

As I got to know their background and lives 3 things were very clear:

1. A vast majority had been emotionally neglected, emotionally abused, or physically abused as children.

2. A vast majority had experienced domestic violence or were currently living in it.

3. Basic needs were never met. Life was an hour by hour struggle. Treatment was an attempt to allow them to get to work in most cases. To just continue to surviving.

It was the start of me questioning the field I had been trained in. One that diagnoses people with disorders without taking a look at the whole picture. It began my path of holistic understanding.

A person cannot be well when one unexpected bill will have them fall behind on rent. When they lay their head on a pillow and all they can think about is expenses piling up. When a bill at the grocery store is almost double what they paid last year when their income has stayed the same.

An entire family unit deeply struggles within survival mode. When a job is lost. When daycare needs to be paid, but so does the light bill— what do you choose? When parents can’t even think about the emotional needs of their children because they have to figure out where their next meal is going to come from.

In 1942, 10 years before the diagnostic manual of mental illness was released Maslow knew what was once just common sense: we have a hierarchy of needs.

At the bottom are basic needs food and shelter. Then safety (resources, security). Then belonging (connection, friendship, intimacy.) Without three things we *will* be sick, period.

I get pushback for questioning the status quo. And I’ll continue to do it. The status quo is keeping people sick. It denies their experience. And it says we should bandage people’s symptoms so they can return to the environment that made them sick.

May we wake up, heal ourselves, and build conscious communities to help each other.

Retweet if you feel this is true in your body 🙏

[Omid Djalili @omid9]

Morality police attacks a woman not wearing hijab in a car. Watch her fight back despite getting punched in the face.

To the undecided men: choose a side. And for the sake of humanity make interventions. This woman is all women of Iran. You’d do well to support them.

[PartnershipProjects @PartnershipProj]

📣⏰ Only 2 weeks until the 'Past, Present & Future of NVR in the UK (& beyond!)' conference! Book now:
https://t.co/uPAgKPFq58

#PartnershipProjects #NONVIOLENTRESISTANCE #NVR #nvrpractitioner #nvrconference #CAMHS #therapist #childtoparentabuse #ChildToParentViolence #CPVA

[Peter Jakob @peterjNVR]

Just signed. My own work experience, shows the psychological impact that inaction has on young people. Remaining unprotecte and receiving no justice are part of the multi-layered traumatisation - trauma goes on, there's no 'PTSD', just trauma. We must resist inaction #NVR

[Anderida Adolescent Care @AnderidaC]

Our 'NFA Should Not Be The End' campaign aims to ensure that all disclosures made by young people are clearly documented, that all professionals can see the actions taken and that there were no further avenues to take at the time.

Sign our petition 👉 https://t.co/hU2DjD3gDt

[Peter Jakob @peterjNVR]

Carrie & David Grant have been talking about how #NVR has helped their family. They challenge the disablist narrative that neurodiverse kids are supposedly unable to self-regulate, and show that these kids can learn.

[Peter Jakob @peterjNVR]

@ASoberLady HELLO!

[Peter Jakob @peterjNVR]

And it's time for men to unmask men who do this, or we become bystanders - and bystanding encourages abuse. The skewing of reality that has always been imposed on women and children is being legitimised by populist movements, and that we must #resist.

[Peter Jakob @peterjNVR]

@DrProudman And it's time for men to unmask men who do this, or we become bystanders - and bystanding encourages abuse. The skewing of reality that has always been imposed on women and children is being legitimised by populist movements, and that we must #resist.

[Peter Jakob @peterjNVR]

@davidgmandel Same when working with men who had sexually abused children. Admitting was a process, not a shift. Victim-blaming, misogynist societal discourses helped maintain denial. In #NVR we can encourage parents to hold themselves responsible for any past ill treatment of their child.

[Mohamad Safa @mhdksafa]

If you think fertilized eggs are people but parents who've crossed the oceans with their kids aren't, stop pretending your concerns are religious.

[Peter Jakob @peterjNVR]

@joannamoncrieff Agree. The biomedical framework creates a vertical determination by the professional of who their patient is. Definitional power over others is harmful. #NarrativeTherapy

[Dr Joanna Moncrieff @joannamoncrieff]

'Psychiatry will not find it easy to abandon its biomedical framework but it needs to do so in the interests of patients.'

[Mohamad Safa @mhdksafa]

Never tell a little girl that when a boy is mean or rude to her it's because he has a crush on her. Don't teach her that abuse is a sign of love.

[Mohamad Safa @mhdksafa]

In Iran if a 12-year-old girl is raped and impregnated by her father, she must carry the baby to term, or be thrown in prison for life. Wait, sorry, no. That's Mississippi.

[Peter Jakob @peterjNVR]

@DrEmmaKatz A fraudulent expert witness is bad enough, but even worse is that a mother-blaming assessment fits with broader parent/mother-blaming discourses in society. It should be abundantly clear that abuse and violence need to be taken seriously.

[Peter Jakob @peterjNVR]

A fraudulent expert witness is bad enough, but even worse is that a mother-blaming assessment fits with broader parent/mother-blaming discourses in society. It should be abundantly clear that abuse and violence need to be taken seriously.

[Dr Emma Katz @DrEmmaKatz]

Mother files for protection order against abusive father who was sexually assaulting her post-separation.

Custody evaluator brands mother 'manipulative' and 'abusive' for doing so and said this reflected poorly on the mothers' parenting skills.

https://t.co/RZ4atUbhyb

[Peter Jakob @peterjNVR]

Some more #antidepressants: sense of belonging, being perceived as mattering to others, justice, feeling appreciated for what we do...

[Dr. Roger McFillin @DrMcFillin]

This is for anyone who believes in a chemical imbalance & antidepressant drug.
Real antidepressants: Love, exercise, sleep, nutrition, nature, sex, creativity, sun, safety, friendship, purpose, spirituality, learning, helping, music, meditation, empathy, health
What else?