Behind many quiet men are loud battles nobody sees. Some are fighting financial pressure, loneliness, grief, failure, self- doubt, or the weight of expectations. Yet they still show up for work, family, friends, and responsibilities every day. That deserves recognition.
This Men's Mental Health Month, let men know they don't always have to "man up" and suffer in silence. Real strength is honesty. Real courage is vulnerability. And real healing begins when a man realizes he does not have to carry everything alone.
Somewhere in your 20s or 30s you'll get the opportunity to rebuild your life after a negative loop, heal from what broke you, live in your own space, reconnect with your discipline, and learn to love yourself again. It's very important that you see that journey through.
When we stop trying to control everything and focus on ourselves, the world will finally function as it should.
Do clouds intend to provide rain? Do trees intend to provide oxygen? Of course not. They do these things selfishly. Similarly, when you live your best life, you help others in ways you cannot imagine. When we second- guess our true nature, we second-guess the universe.
Why do you think we have a true nature?
Suppose the sun stopped shining, deeming itself overly selfish just beaming all the time, not contributing "more" to the world. Suppose bees stopped gathering nectar, feeling guilty "taking" from the flowers. Suppose clouds stopped providing rain, thinking they should help the planet some "other" way.
The world would fall apart.
Nature works because it is selfish. It is selfish by design. It is we who second-guess our dreams. When we stop following our dreams, we let the whole world down.
The only selfish act is not following what's in your heart.
Some days carry more weight than other people can see. And just because you keep going doesn't mean it hasn't been hard on you.
So please, take care of yourself too.
Rest without guilt. Speak to yourself with softness. Stop expecting yourself to carry everything so perfectly all the time. You deserve the same patience, understanding, and kindness that you give so freely to everyone else. And even if it doesn't always feel like it, you've survived moments you once thought would completely break you. I hope you give yourself credit for that. You've made it farther than you think.
"And when nobody wakes you up in the morning,
and when nobody waits for you at night,
and when you can do whatever you want.
What do you call it, freedom or loneliness?"
~Charles Bukowski
No medicine, no remedy, is as effective as time, for in the fullness of time all gets settled. Even love as powerful as it is, it's ultimate test is time!
Be wary of one who gives you time.
The fool does finally, what the wise man does at once.
If you stay too long around people who treat you like you are not worthy of love ,you will start to believe you are not worthy of love .
You are a product of your environment
I have interacted with individuals from almost all tribes in Kenya. I have realized there are good people in every tribe. I refuse to buy this notion that people from a certain tribe are awful and should be avoided. Judge an individual not the tribe.
Whatever you do with your life, just make sure you end up with a kind partner. There will be very many days the feeling of love will not be enough to get you through the days. But a kind person will always be a kind person regardless.
Because one day, love will feel ordinary, and on that day, character will matter more than chemistry.
Nobody posts for show off. You just view with jealousy.
We can't keep quiet with our success stories because silence defined our failures. And, to us who grew up with our soles kissing the dusts of poverty, success is as petty as a couple pair of socks. There's no pride in lack. We're sorry, we have to tell those stories here, because, we don't have anywhere else.
Our stories aren't meant to challenge you to do better. No! We'd appreciate it if you stayed 'good'. We are just celebrating the baby steps we've made to better our former selves.
Of the nights we sat on stones, gazing at the stars, dreaming to travel like the fireflies across the skies.
Of the mornings we woke up, our mouths carrying the bad breath of aborted dreams.
Look at us today!
The ability to sit, work and earn is success to us! To eat three meals a day, is to wake up on the brighter side of our childhood yearnings.
God❤️
Proximity is power. The closer you are to people who are doing what you want to do, the faster you'll get there. Not because they'll hand you the answer. Because you'll see how they think. How they move. How they handle pressure. And that proximity will reshape your standard.
Most people try to figure it out alone. They think asking for help is weak. That learning from others is cheating. But that's ego talking. And ego slows you down. The smartest people in the room are the ones learning from everyone in it.
Get close to people who are ahead of you. Study them. Ask questions. Absorb how they operate. And let that proximity pull you forward. Because you can't become what you can't see. And the fastest way to see it is to be around it.
As a man, anything you do for a woman should be done as an act of humanity on humanitarian grounds.
Don't expect anything in return.
WOMEN are ungrateful.