Philosophy for Parents

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Rituals have been used in every culture since ancient times.

They give us a sense of stability in an uncertain world and create unity in the family structure.

Here are some powerful ways to use small rituals in everyday family life: 🧵

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“Educating the mind without educating the heart is no education at all.” — Aristotle

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@Kyra_Thoughts Life is messy ☺️ if we’re not exposed to the mess, we don’t learn how to deal with it.

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We can’t, as parents, be perfect, and that’s okay because the world we’re preparing our kids for is itself imperfect.

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@bycourtneym @throeingit Yes definitely. And seed oils are so hard to avoid.

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@bycourtneym @throeingit Same. My logic is also that we can't shield them from sugar forever, so they need to be exposed to it in order to learn to regulate themselves.

Making it a forbidden fruit only creates addictive behavior.

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When you wrap your child in your arms, it activates an interesting chain of events in their body.

Oxytocin goes up and cortisol comes down, lowering stress levels and making them feel safe and calm.

That’s the amazing power of a parent’s embrace.

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The most powerful opportunities for parent-child bonding often happen in the small, everyday moments – a shared meal, a spontaneous laugh, a goodnight kiss on the forehead.

Pay attention to those moments so they don’t pass by unnoticed.

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@BoostSelfWorth It takes conscious effort, day in and day out, to be a better parent. It's not easy - but working on yourself and reflecting on what you're doing right and wrong (and WHY) is worth the effort.

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@leader1fm Couldn't agree more - they really shine a light on your character, your strengths, weaknesses, traumas, everything. They teach you about yourself, and about the world.

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There is no end to the learning we do as parents. Our children teach us as much as we teach them.

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@XCouncillor Children make life beautifully chaotic. Structure helps - but as parents, we have to know when to let go and flow around the obstacles instead of bashing against them.

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Always remember that you have influence, not control.

Each child is a vivid, complex being walking their own unique path.

A parent’s job is not to determine who the child will be, but to see them for who they already are.

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Three things you can do instead of answering your child's questions:

1. Throw it back to them. "Why do you think stop signs are red?" Get them thinking and using their creativity.

2. Admit you have no idea. "I don't know if grapes are poisonous to hedgehogs..." (legit question that came up the other day) and then suggest you work it out/research it together.

3. Turn it into an experiment. "What happens when you put salt on ice? Let's find out..." Go hands-on and get a full learning experience out of it.

Automatically answering questions can be an easy default mode to fall into. But a child's curiosity can really flourish when you give more mindful responses.

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I don't think it's an uncomfortable idea at all. I completely agree that taking care of our issues is the first and most necessary step for having any kind of positive impact on the world around us.

But is healing not a process that happens in a relationship with the circumstances and people around us?

It is not about healing or impacting others.
It's about creating a positive overlap between both spheres, being that self comes first.

I understand your point—there is too much emphasis on controlling and directing, and a lot of trauma comes from that. OK.

However, there is no true freedom without the existence of limits.

Yes, life already provides natural limits. But the parent is an intrinsic part of the life of the child and logically is and should be part of the process of creating limits. Honestly, I don't see how you can say that you have never set limits for your child. Have you never taken her to school, had to get her to bathe, or sat down to eat?

Setting limits is not the transmission of trauma; it is an intrinsic part of life. But in order for the parent to able to work with limits without hurting the child, inner work must first be done.

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Setting limits is not about "straightening those kids out". It's about creating the conditions for children to live their own experiences in a safe and harmonious way.

An authoritarian approach will create trauma, and so will a complete lack of limits.

Yes, parents need to heal themselves first and we have done many posts about this fact.

But parents also need to equip themselves with knowledge and tools to help them become better parents.

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@DrBobBeare You don't think that it's important for parents to teach their kids?

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Should parents set firm limits for their kids?

Absolutely. But they should also explain the why behind those limits.

It's called inductive discipline.

Instead of "Do this because I said so," it's "Let's talk about why this matters."

A study that tracked more than 15,000 adolescents for over a decade found that inductive discipline contributed to better health outcomes in adulthood.

Inductive discipline is having heart-to-heart conversations that lead to real understanding and growth.

It's teaching kids to think, not just follow.

When you discipline your kids, make it inductive. See it as an opportunity to teach, guide, and connect.

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@neuranne Part of asking more questions is letting go of your intellectual insecurities.

Don't worry about revealing your ignorance about a topic or asking silly questions. Just go for it!

I find this so hard, but so worth it—plus, it's a habit I want to model to my kids.

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@codebytom @neuranne Agree. You can really tell when someone puts their heart into something.