Nobody warned me about this part of marriage ๐๐
Before I got married I still dey go out small small ooo.
Nothing too much tho as I'm an introvert.
But I had my people, you know nah, my outings and my own life.
Then I married someone just like me (an introvert also ๐คฃ).
We loved staying in together, bring indoor, watching movies, listening to music and and once in a while we go out to lounges๐ Just us.
I didn't even notice when the outside world disappeared.
It felt like love, NO It was love๐ฏ.
Then the kids came.
And somehow even that small quiet world we built together got swallowed๐
Now I'm sitting here missing the lounge dates with my husband,
missing the friends I slowly stopped calling and missing a version of myself that still went outside ๐ with my inner circle friends ๐คฃ๐คฃ
Nobody told me marriage would be beautiful and lonely at the same time.
Not lonely like sadness ooo
Lonely like quietly missing who you used to be.
Nigerian women don't get burnout,we get called lazy.
We don't get mental health days, we get told "just pray, God will do it."๐๐
We don't get to fall apart ehn but get reminded that others have it worse๐๐.
As if our pain needs to pass an interview before it's valid.
One day sha we go give ourselves permission to just rest without guilt๐ฏ๐ฏ
That day cannot come soon enough abeg๐๐๐
My neighbor left because the rent increased by โฆ100k. By the time he found somewhere "cheaper," he had spent โฆ300k on agent fees, agreement, and caution while our landlord has since found a new tenant. But other times ehnn landlords no get fear of God, imagine increasing rent every damn year
Nobody warned me about this part of marriage ๐๐
Before I got married I still dey go out small small ooo.
Nothing too much tho as I'm an introvert.
But I had my people, you know nah, my outings and my own life.
Then I married someone just like me (an introvert also ๐คฃ).
We loved staying in together, bring indoor, watching movies, listening to music and and once in a while we go out to lounges๐ Just us.
I didn't even notice when the outside world disappeared.
It felt like love, NO It was love๐ฏ.
Then the kids came.
And somehow even that small quiet world we built together got swallowed๐
Now I'm sitting here missing the lounge dates with my husband,
missing the friends I slowly stopped calling and missing a version of myself that still went outside ๐ with my inner circle friends ๐คฃ๐คฃ
Nobody told me marriage would be beautiful and lonely at the same time.
Not lonely like sadness ooo
Lonely like quietly missing who you used to be.
@OdigieTimothy4@OyinLadun0 I tell you, but the prayer we will sha first pray for is that she regains her freedom. Many don't have that opportunity. Its so sad but that's the Country we live in ๐๐
@MrsN_L I tell you, now I envy my older sister. Her situation was like mine before but now the children are older and can take care of themselves. She and her hubby just dey cruise dey go ๐๐
@_Nwa_igwe Aswearugad, no one to leave the boys with. Once they are a bit older to care for each other, we can pick up again and start enjoying marriage again I believe