Nicole Mirkin

Psychologist writing at the intersection of psychology, law, and life — honest, messy, and rebuilding.

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@CClegsi It really is. That calm is the payoff for all the work no one sees the boundaries, the clarity, the rebuilding. Enjoy it. You earned every bit of that peace.

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@JonathanShedler Absolutely. The loudest misunderstandings usually come from certainty without reflection. Real neutrality requires self-awareness and that’s the part many skip.

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@CClegsi Exactly — some wounds don’t disappear, but they stop defining you. Healing becomes learning to live without bracing for impact, trusting your instincts, and letting the scarred parts of you exist without shame. That is healing, even when it doesn’t feel dramatic

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Authenticity matters more to me than being flawless. This is me naming my truth, releasing shame, and growing the same way I ask others to.
→ Choosing Authenticity: Letting Go of Shame and Embracing Imperfection https://t.co/daTpXpopbL

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Trauma Bonds & Tequila is about why we go back, why intensity feels like chemistry, why silence hits like withdrawal, and why healing isn’t linear. Sometimes it even looks like touching the fire one more time.
https://t.co/iNKgOBt41r

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Diagnosing Without Losing Sight of the Person

A diagnosis is not a person. Labels miss the story underneath - the trauma, the complexity, the human. Look past the DSM-5. Lead with compassion.

https://t.co/Y8ADhqBtk8

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Harmful behavior says more about a person’s conflicts than it does about you. When someone lacks insight into their wounds, their behavior is an extension of pathology, not a reflection of your worth. Read the final part of Trauma, Tequila & Trauma Bonds.
https://t.co/2DZ6CDdZnZ

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Part 4 of Trauma Bonds & Tequila is out now.

Closure doesn’t always come wrapped in clarity - it comes when you finally stop reaching back for the person who broke you to be the one who fixes you.
Read ↓ Part 4: Closure
https://t.co/t5GN193UFj

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Part 3: Is It Love, or Just a Trauma Bond?
We confuse intensity for intimacy, control for love. A trauma bond isn’t connection - it’s addiction to chaos that feels like chemistry.
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Is It Love, or Just a Trauma Bond?https://t.co/XaFBj2Oe9T

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Part 2: You Went Back. So What?
Healing isn’t linear. Sometimes you go back - not because you’re weak, but because you need to see it fall apart one more time to finally let go.
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You Went Back. So What?
https://t.co/jMC593uWZ4

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Trauma Bonds & Tequila: Same Cycle, Different Drug
A five-part series on pain, patterns, and why we chase the high after the fall.
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Why We Chase Highs After the Fall

https://t.co/a5cpRiy1nT

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Sometimes life moves faster than your ability to heal.
The pain hits before you can process it, and the world expects you to move on. This post is about what happens when you finally feel safe enough to begin.
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When Life Moves Before We Can Heal
https://t.co/JwN8COu3tg

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Understanding, not scrutiny, can change everything for parents navigating mental health and family court.
When people feel heard, they begin to rebuild.
It’s about dignity, empathy, and being seen.
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The Power of Being Understood
https://t.co/DxZlLHS5fI

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Where my work and life intersect - helping others while learning to heal myself. Reflections on rebuilding and finding your voice inside imperfect systems.
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Where My Work and Life Meet

https://t.co/Xn0cw5yA3m

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Bridging my work in clinical and forensic psychology with reflections that make the field feel human. Honest stories of growth and healing amid systemic challenges and life’s interruptions.
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Welcome to Psychologist Interrupted
https://t.co/OujrDgZ55X

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@YossiClarke @the_mel_jar Exactly. A child’s role is to be, not to fix. The most loving thing we can do is find our own joy before asking them to carry it.

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@the_mel_jar Yes, because clearly everyone else has mastered lifelong satisfaction. What a fascinating new theory in human psychology.

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@DearS_o_n That says less about women’s aging and more about what culture rewards. Maturity looks good on everyone — when you know how to see it.

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@DearS_o_n The quiet seasons are where real regulation and growth take root. The work you do unseen will speak for you later.

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@DearS_o_n Exactly. The nervous system thrives on rhythm, rest, hydration, and connection — not shortcuts.