Onize

in pursuit of meaning

[Onilu The Hawker 🧞🇳🇬 @gemyoruba]

Show me a picture of something beautiful you took with your phone. Not selfies of yourself please. 😋😋😋

[👑K I N G👑 @kingsuleiman27]

A woman was in a coma in the hospital, and she was continuously raped until she got pregnant. The hospital found out and carried out investigations and found out a male employee has been raping her all the while she was in coma.

A 3 year old baby was raped by a grown man.

A homeless mad woman on the street was raped by a man.

A lady who was fully covered was raped by a man.

A lady who was sleeping on her bed in her own home was raped and killed.

A daughter was raped by her own father.

I can go on and on…

But once these heartbreaking stories make it to the media, some of you immediately start looking for ways to blame the victim, talking about

“women need to learn how to avoid being abused”

“Maybe she’s this, maybe she’s that”

Are you people crazy?

Instead of teaching men that no matter what, even if they see a woman walking naked, they still have no right to touch or abuse or rape her.

The women in all the scenarios above, how exactly were they supposed to avoid being raped?

Make it make sense.

#SayNoToRape

[Vfynn_🥷🏼 𐙚 @Vfynn_]

🚨🎙️Thierry Henry on Arsenal becoming Champions of England:

Arsenal didn’t ‘get lucky’, they took the crown from Manchester City. There’s a difference. For four years everyone in England acted like the Premier League belonged to City permanently, like the rest of the league were just guests waiting for permission to compete. Arsenal changed that.”

“After that defeat at the Etihad, the media buried Arsenal. Pundits folded instantly. Fans were laughing, rivals were posting memes, and suddenly the title race was ‘over’. But champions don’t panic after one defeat. Weak teams do. This Arsenal side responded like real winners.”

“And let me say something that will upset people, this Manchester City side is not the City machine people pretend it is anymore. The fear factor is gone. Teams go to the Etihad now believing they can survive. A few years ago opponents were beaten in the tunnel before kickoff. Arsenal smelled that weakness before anyone else.”

“What impresses me most is the mentality. Arsenal have been mocked for YEARS. Banter club. Soft. Bottle jobs. ‘Trust the process’ jokes every single season. Yet now look at everybody. Silent. Because the same club people laughed at just dethroned the most dominant English side of the modern era.”

“And for the rival fans crying already, no, this is not a ‘one-off’. That’s the scary part. Arsenal are young, hungry, aggressive, and they play without fear. Liverpool fans won one league and called it a dynasty. Chelsea fans spent billions and still can’t build an identity. United fans live in nostalgia. Tottenham fans celebrate finishing above Arsenal like it’s a trophy parade. Meanwhile Arsenal are champions of England again.”

“People wanted Arsenal to fail so badly because they know what this club looks like when it rises. The atmosphere changes in football. The arrogance returns. The belief returns. And the rest of the league starts getting nervous.”

“So congratulations to Arsenal. They didn’t back into the title. They earned it. And the funniest thing? The tears from rival fans have only just started.”

[Onize @Queen_Bilqees]

Our Premier League Champion 🎉🎉🎊🎊

[Arsenal @Arsenal]

The Arsenal. Your Premier League champions.

[Arsenal @Arsenal]

The Arsenal. Your Premier League champions.

[Onize @Queen_Bilqees]

Arsenal 🎊🎊🎉🎉
We did it

[Simon Thazhigilla Simon🇳🇬 @Thazhigilla_]

I am Nigerian, and right now my dream is bigger than me.

Only about 4.5% of medical literature globally are represented on Black skin.

That means millions of Black patients are learning from systems that barely look like them. Medical students study diseases on skin tones that are not their own. Doctors are trained with visual references that often fail Black bodies.

That gap has consequences.
So I am deciding to build towards changing it.

I’m starting with a book.
But the larger vision is far beyond that. I want to help build software and medical visualization tools that make Black medical representation impossible to ignore.

This is not just about diversity aesthetics, this is about accuracy, education, visibility and better healthcare outcomes.

One day, I want a Black child studying medicine anywhere on earth to see themselves fully represented in what they learn.
And I believe we can build that future.

[ADAEZE👩‍🍳👸-THE BLUEPRINT/ODOGWU OF BANANA BREAD @adaezennaji_]

I don’t care for the whole conversation but isn’t this the same way you people talk about football stars and clubs like they’re your brothers and you are founders there or something and some don’t shame you for it. If I didn’t know better, I’d think Ronaldo and others were y’all homeboys or something.

So I’m not sure why you guys are acting weird and corny over Nigerian girls wanting to talk about an artist they listen to… you people literally try to shit talk almost everything women enjoy. You did it with BBN, Love island, heck even K-dramas.

Rest abeg. Let people be. And yes, let everyone get their PVC 👍

[Onize @Queen_Bilqees]

I just wanted you to know that this is me trying 😔😔😔😔

[Zoya🕊️ @Zoya_ki_batein]

unironically this was one of the signs i picked up on that the public was headed in a more conservative/tradwife direction bc doesn't this remind you exactly of the crazy nighttime routines 1950s housewives had

[SHAMSEDDIN GIWA @shamseddinGiwa]

Re: Polygyny

A lot of women are also hypocrites who make it difficult to settle.

One day as a first wife:
“I don’t want polygyny. If you marry another I will leave.”

Same woman now divorced:
“I have found another man who loves me even though he’s married. His wife doesn’t understand.”

Same woman dating a married man:
“There’s nothing wrong with polygyny if the man practices it right, this man is good unlike my ex husband”.

Same woman as a second wife whose husband wants to take a third:
“I will never accept it. He cannot bring in another woman”.

[Onize @Queen_Bilqees]

Do I need closure? 😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨

[👳🏾‍♂️Mufti Of Ilorin Online 👳🏾‍♂️ @Adamthallith]

Personally, one thing my wife will have the full right to decide and complete control over in my marriage is the number of children she wants to give birth to.

I am not imposing any number of children on any woman.

If I have a wife who decides she does not want another child after the first because of her experience with pregnancy and childbirth, God is my witness, I will never force it.

If I desire more children, that is a separate conversation and responsibility on my part, but I will never compel any woman to give birth beyond what she is willing and able to bear.

[Onize @Queen_Bilqees]

Eating out of the trash
It’s never gonna last

[HONITEL👑 @HonitelHQ]

1. Men know exactly what they are doing. Always remember that.

2. It is not your responsibility to change a man. In fact, you cannot change a man, but you can change the man. Read that again.

3. Men will treat you based on how they feel about you and how you carry yourself. If he’s not treating you with care, he doesn’t like you. Don’t make excuses for him.

4. No man can go a day without talking to a woman he is in love with.

5. An inconsistent man doesn’t like you. Only showing up when it is convenient for him is a red flag 🚩

6. There is no such thing as a nonchalant man. That man doesn’t like you. He’s “chalanting” elsewhere.

7. If a man cheats on you and you find out, and instead of leaving the relationship you choose to stay, he will start seeing you as a foól.

8. Your self-respect must be greater than your feelings and libido. Do not ever beg a man to love you. Begging is disgusting.

9. Men are very thoughtful when they are in love. They make time, plan things, and put effort where their heart is. A low-effort man doesn’t like you.

10. The highest form of love is consideration. Any man who doesn’t consider you, how his actions make you feel, or how to make your life easier within his capacity doesn’t like you. Walk away.

11. Lastly, you accept the love you think you deserve. However a man treats you, if you stay, you are a willing participant, not a victim. If you think you deserve better, you know exactly what to do.

[⟢ @liminalspacelvr]

My mom grew up with an absent father and an autistic mother. My mom has been my grandmother's primary caretaker since she was 10 years old. She pretty much grew up without parental figures. Then she married my dad who was hopelessly in love with her throughout his life. (1/2)

[Onize @Queen_Bilqees]

I’ll turn X to my personal diary 😮‍💨😮‍💨

So I hid because I wanted someone to miss me and I guess I didn’t even cross their mind 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[Onize @Queen_Bilqees]

And I thought I was healed 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

[Onize @Queen_Bilqees]

Life lately

[Wolfie 🐺 @TheIgboWolf]

"She's mature for her age" but you don't ask her for life advice 😂

[•Mel•🏂 @DrMel_]

Said this before and I’ll say it again, even a secure person can be traumatized by an avoidant, if that person isn’t trying to heal, you’d be wasting precious time trying to love them

Same goes for an anxious person, reassuring them doesn’t work, if they aren’t trying to do the work, you’d end up stepping out of security to tend to them. Support but let them heal on their own, that’s how you love them properly