I had a realization a few years ago that I don't need to figure out why this person is doing a certain behavior I dislike. All that matters is I know I don't like the behavior and I can leave
They shooting the messenger, but she ain’t wrong. Dating and sex were heavily demonized in a lot of our homes. We were told to stay away from boys and focus on school. The problem is that relationships are a skill set too and many Black women were prepared for careers but left to figure out dating, boundaries, and healthy partnership on our own.
Acts of service men are dangerously attractive.
Fixing problems, making sure you’ve eaten, charging your phone, carrying your things… that’s romance to me.
I always say happiness over history. If a man has repeatedly shown you pain, inconsistency, disrespect or emotional confusion, your history together is not enough reason to stay. Familiarity is not the same thing as peace
A lot of men are addicted to the validation of being desired, not the responsibility of maintaining a healthy relationship. The chase feeds their ego more than the actual connection.