I have finally finished reading @aaron_clarey âthreesome with Jesusâ book.
My favorite quote from the book was:
âevery real Christian man has every right to unashamedly admit you want a hot wife with big tits, a nice ass (my add) and long hair in the kitchen, spanking her scantily clad ass as she goes from making cookies to pouring you a beer, who will have sex with you when you like, how you like, however you like âŠ.. probably in the garageâŠ.and you will enjoy it guilt free. Every Christian woman has every right to admit she just wants to be a stay-at-home-mom, be taken care of, take care of her man, fuck the career and fuck the debt and maybe enjoy a little bit of sex in the garage tooâ.
I think it perfectly captures the vibe of what separates shitty marriages people are simply surviving in from fantastic marriages people are thriving in - even as a couple who deeply and genuinely love God and His creation.
As people ask me the secret to how Avis and I have been together 34 years and counting in a marriage we both genuinely love being in, with 3 kids in the mix along the way and still having the time of our lives - my new standard answer may be to tell them to just go read chapter 6 of Aaronâs book.
If you can get past any gut shame objections you may have to reading it and put into practice what he is saying in that chapter, your marriage is going to be just fine, same as ours - because if you get the sex right, you have automatically solved 95% of the problems your marriage may run into before you run into them.
-R
If youâre thinking youâre meeting better men daily, you donât love your husband. Because if you did, he would be a better man and nobody could match him ever.
âNEVER TRUST A WOMAN WHO gets upset over your reactions to her actions. You got mad because of what she did, and now she's mad because you reacted. Then she tries to gaslight you by saying you're always arguing or creating negativity. No, that's MANIPULATION. That's narcissistic behavior. You don't get to hurt people and then play the VICTIM when they call you out.â
You see how stupid it sounds when itâs coming from a man?
NEVER TRUST A MAN WHO gets upset over your reactions to his actions. You got mad because of what he did, and now he's mad because you reacted. Then he tries to gaslight you by saying you're always arguing or creating negativity. No, that's MANIPULATION. That's narcissistic behavior. You don't get to hurt people and then play the VICTIM when they call you out.
âMen have sacrificed and crippled themselves physically and emotionally to feed, house, and protect women and children. None of their pain or achievement is registered in feminist rhetoric, which portrays men as oppressive and callous exploiters.â
â Camille Paglia
@sunnkssdseraph Sometimes? You mean all the time? Women love patriarchy. they just donât like the parts that controls them. But they love the parts that give them privileges.
I am profoundly indifferent toward life.
Mass shootings occur, people live in terror, and the world spins from one tragedy to the next. I understand that these are serious problems. I acknowledge the pain and fear they cause. Yet I feel nothing. No anger, no sadness, no urge to act. I simply donât care.
People have been killing one another for millions of years. They will continue to do so until humanity is extinguished from the Earth. Wars, murders, suffering, joy, success, failure â it all feels equally meaningless to me now. Life unfolds as it always has: chaotic, violent, fleeting. I observe it all with the same emotional detachment.
I donât care about the headlines, the outrage cycles, the endless predictions of doom or hope.
All of this rests on one simple truth: I have no strength to change any of it. Why would I dwell and fixate on things that I have absolutely no control over? Itâs just a profound waste of time. I would much rather focus on the things that I can control. Watching a three-hour podcast on Trump, Iran, politics, and so on â how does that improve my life?
Spending hours consuming news, debates, or opinions about distant events only drains my energy and attention without giving anything back. It doesnât make me stronger, richer, wiser, or happier. It doesnât move me closer to my goals or improve the lives of the people I actually care about. At best, itâs entertainment disguised as importance. At worst, itâs a distraction that pulls me away from what truly matters.
Instead, I choose to invest my limited time and strength in my own sphere â my health, my work, my relationships, my skills, and my future. These are the areas where my efforts can actually create results. These are the places where I can impose my will and see real change. Everything else is noise. I let it pass by without attachment, without investment, and without regret.
The reason she respected you before and no longer does is that you wouldnât tolerate her disrespect before marriage. She knew that if she didnât behave wellâif she wasnât nice, kind, peaceful, and loving toward youâyou wouldnât choose to stay with her. You would leave her. Now, you do none of those things. Uncertainty keeps people on better behavior. Before you bring that uncertainty back, things will only get worse.
The biggest thing to fix your marriage isnât learning how to earn her respect back. Itâs having the ability to walk away when necessary. If she canât lose you, she canât respect youâbecause you donât respect yourself. Youâre staying in a relationship where youâve become a doormat, desperately trying to figure out how to make her respect you again while sheâs crushing you under her feet. The fact that youâre still trying to make things better when your wife has no intention of doing the same is exactly why youâve ended up in this situation.
The biggest thing to fix your marriage isnât learning how to earn her respect back. Itâs having the ability to walk away when necessary. If she canât lose you, she canât respect youâbecause you donât respect yourself. Youâre staying in a relationship where youâve become a doormat, desperately trying to figure out how to make her respect you again while sheâs crushing you under her feet. The fact that youâre still trying to make things better when your wife has no intention of doing the same is exactly why youâve ended up in this situation.
Fellas, maybe instead of figuring out why she lost respect for you, or how can you gain it back, realize that she lost your respect too and while youâre watching hours of podcasts on how to earn her respect again, she does nothing. This dynamic right here is the real reason.
Most men donât lose authority in their marriage overnight.
They lose it one small compromise at a time.
One correction they let slide
One decision they avoid
One moment they stay silent
Until one dayâŠ
đ They hesitate to speak in their own home.
This has a name: henpecking.
And it only works if you allow it.
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THINGS I DONT DEBATE WITH MEN :
1. Abortion
2. Breastfeeding
3. Menstruation
4. Female body hair
5. Birth Control
6. Access to feminine hygiene products
Why? Because NONE of those involve the male body & therefore don't create any valid MALE OPINIONS