You want a relationship to work but you have to be willing to learn how a person needs to be loved. You need to know why they are the way they are... the history not just the easy stuff but the hard things also.
Love on your babies. Be sweet to them. Say nice things. Sing to them. Do things they enjoy. Watch their favorite shows. Take them on trips. Speak life into them. Tell them how intelligent they are. How beautiful/handsome they are. How super they are. They need to hear it. They have bad days too. They want to feel special too. Make them feel wanted & cared for. ❤️
Real love makes you feel safe enough to be soft. Real love makes you feel open enough to be vulnerable. Real love makes you feel good enough to just be yourself. & that’s the beauty of unconditional love—you won’t have to try so hard to be loved. You just are. You won’t feel like you need to put on an act to be loved. You won’t feel like you need to be like or look like someone else to be loved. You won’t feel like you need to hide the worst things about you to be loved. & you definitely won’t have to be perfect or fully "healed" to be loved. Their love will meet you where you’re at & help you transcend to higher heights. A love that stays & endures. A love that heals & nourishes. A love that grows & evolves. A real love.
to whom this may concern;
understand the difference between resilience and self sabotage. consistently returning to occupy spaces that drown out your existence won’t teach you how to float better, just because you can handle the waves doesn’t mean that you should swim in them.