GrainneReconstructed

writes from a reconstructed life anonymously writing about the effects and outcomes of DA plus life n stuff

[Alliance Against Alienation @AllianceAgains4]

When a parent says "I can't force the child to see mum/dad" a known PA phrase, the court should ask "What are you doing to encourage it?"

[David Mandel @davidgmandel]

On the other hand, men who had friends or family who egged them on their negative thinking or didn't intervene were more likely to continue that behavior. While in some instances perpetrators only act abusively behind closed doors, in many others, their behaviors are obvious....

[David Mandel @davidgmandel]

Perpetrators lie and manipulate friends, family and professionals. Perpetrators will tell others that she is crazy or overly sensitive or emotional so that they set up so that if the survivor ever seeks help they are less likely to be believed.

[GrainneReconstructed @ReconstructedG]

@AllianceAgains4 A poem sums it up: No matter the truth or the reality, absolute power

Gaslighting to alienation

Supermarket after work
“She’s late and missing”
Yellow stickers in a basket
“She’s drunk”
Driving home plan dinner
“A suicidal mess”
Say hello to the children

They run away

[Dame Nicole Jacobs @CommissionerDA]

This morning on @BBCWomansHour I outlined how the #FamilyCourt can be used as a site of post separation coercive control

My new report makes recommendations to ensure there is greater understanding of #DomesticAbuse earlier in proceedings

Thanks to @BBCNuala for this dicussion

[GrainneReconstructed @ReconstructedG]

@theJeremyVine This treatment is common in so many sectors, rife in the charitable sectors & when dealing with statutory bodies. If you speak up others who know it’s true can’t back you up for fear of not just their jobs but even more that their charities they are associated with suffer too

[GrainneReconstructed @ReconstructedG]

@PlateTectonic1 @CHIMPSINSOCKS If you’ve been paying tax since 1945 you’re probably due a new tax code by now tbf

[Andrew Thomas Cicchetti, Ph.D. (Cis, He/Him) @AndrewCicchett1]

Children don’t simply witness domestic abuse-coercive control, nor is it that they just experience it; children are harmed by the perpetration of domestic abuse-coercive control in direct and indirect ways.

[GrainneReconstructed @ReconstructedG]

@lawmo123 @stlurob @KeefJay @LloydOakley1960 @sophielouisecc Yes, except those people have gone without pay rises for years and it’s strikes/unions that have embedded working conditions- pay, safety, bank holidays in the private sector. Private sector employees benefit too. People pay tax and it goes to be distributed across the board

[GrainneReconstructed @ReconstructedG]

@lawmo123 @stlurob @KeefJay @LloydOakley1960 @sophielouisecc All employers pay Class 1A employers NI contributions. I don’t think it’s helpful to constantly berate the public sector without understanding that ultimately society is one community and there are parts that must be funded to survive, or the reach of who contributes to that

[GrainneReconstructed @ReconstructedG]

@lawmo123 @stlurob @KeefJay @LloydOakley1960 @sophielouisecc All employers pay NI contributions, business, charities, public sector. There’s a narrative that businesses are being martyred and plundered and keeping the country going and yet the fact that they need the infrastructure to operate is overlooked

[GrainneReconstructed @ReconstructedG]

@lawmo123 @KeefJay @LloydOakley1960 @sophielouisecc You do realise that people in the public sector also pay tax?

[GrainneReconstructed @ReconstructedG]

@CHIMPSINSOCKS Rishi Sunak telling everyone else they need to learn maths……

[GrainneReconstructed @ReconstructedG]

@OliverForbes14 @AndrewGale2 @ratstring52 @MarkVipond @grahambsi Yep always busy trying to make up for losses in community funding and trying to make sure people get help. It’s not easy, so I know those of us who work with disadvantaged people really appreciate your acknowledgment of how hard the work is. Thank you

[GrainneReconstructed @ReconstructedG]

@OliverForbes14 @AndrewGale2 @ratstring52 @MarkVipond @grahambsi And since we are now not in the EU & their funding ended - ta da!! The funding for the poorest has now disappeared - how did that happen?!! You tell me since it was the UK apparently funding all the poorest in the 1st place (but had to launder through EU obvs shh!) Oh wait no

[GrainneReconstructed @ReconstructedG]

@OliverForbes14 @AndrewGale2 @ratstring52 @MarkVipond @grahambsi Oh did you miss where someone asked how the poorest benefited from EU funding & I answered because I worked on the end of domestic govt cuts & was able to resume the work because EU recognised the needs & somehow none of you know who funded the EU so have to keep asking me

[GrainneReconstructed @ReconstructedG]

@OliverForbes14 @AndrewGale2 @ratstring52 @MarkVipond @grahambsi The member states. Isn’t it shameful when member states cut the basics for their poorest citizens so the whole EU has to step in. Doh what are we like?!!!

[GrainneReconstructed @ReconstructedG]

@MarkVipond Which they wouldn’t have needed to do if their own society had used it to take care of them in the first place

[GrainneReconstructed @ReconstructedG]

@MarkVipond All you’re now highlighting by saying that it was UK money in the first place was that the UK was not supporting the poorest. If they were….. the gaps wouldn’t be filled by EU, either way you’re not covering the UK with any glory here

[GrainneReconstructed @ReconstructedG]

@MarkVipond The question was did the poor benefit from the EU the reply was an answer to that question