Keep your problems smaller than your life. A flat tire is a flat tire. A bad meeting is a bad meeting. A canceled flight is just an extra two hours. These things become catastrophes when you let them. But they stay manageable when you remember the depth of your real life- the people you love, the work you care about, the beautiful years still ahead. Zoom out. Fit your reaction to the size of the problem.
Chad Ochocinco, who has 8 children with 7 women, says he chose their mothers based on athletic ability
“It wasn’t about having a woman that’s fine, look a certain way, got to be a certain color, a certain complexion, hair, and all this stuff that just didn’t matter. I needed athletes. I wanted athletes”
“You look at the kids. You look at the pedigree that I have created. It was all orchestrated. I told those that I dealt with during that time, ‘Did you run track in high school, did you cheer, did you do volleyball. Let me check your ankles.’ I always wanted to check women’s ankles because you have to understand, if I want athletes, the number one foundation for an elite athlete in any sport is your footwork. And if she had bad ankles, there’s no way I could procreate with you”
“She had no idea she was going through my own personal combine. We went to Dave & Buster’s. Why are we doing this. Why are we playing these games. Why are you taking me to the gym with you. Why are we playing one-on-one in basketball. I’m trying to understand and make sure that I am procreating with someone that is athletic”