My ONLY focus rn is becoming the woman I know I’m destined to be. I’m working, I’m growing, I’m maturing, I’m healing. And I’m doing whatever needs to be done to become THAT woman. Nothing else is on my mind & Nothing else matters. I’m just trying to be the best woman I can be, for me.🦋
I don’t keep pouring into people who barely show up for me. If I’m always the one reaching out, checking on you, and making sure we stay solid while you do the bare minimum, I pay attention to that. I’m not begging for the same effort I give naturally. Once I see it ain’t mutual, I fall back and let the distance speak for me.
People really think they got away with doing people wrong. Baby… karma don’t always show up the next day or the next week. Sometimes it comes as money problems, sleepless nights, failed relationships, health issues, stress, or everything falling apart at once. You can fool people, but you can’t outrun the energy you put out into the universe 💯..
*I trusted my intuition, set boundaries, and removed my energy without guilt. I realized that protecting my peace is essential and that choosing myself is the greatest act of self-love❤️❤️❤️
I love the fact that I do not lie about my feelings in order to seem unbothered. I will 100% state if I'm still hurt, confused or bothered by something a person did to me 😭
I think my biggest red flag is that i never really know how to talk about my feelings. When i’m going through something, I tend to stop talking to everyone until i feel okay again. I have a lot of conversations with myself in my head about how i feel, and i explain it so well there but getting it to actually come out of my mouth is so hard. Once i feel okay, i’ll start communicating again as if nothing happened. it’s not that i’m being distant with you; I just process things better when i’m alone.
I work on myself because I understand that I am responsible for where I end up. Not for everything that happened to me, but for every response, every habit, and every decision I made after it. That distinction is everything. Blame is easy. Ownership is what actually changes your life.
A fake friend will never admit they betrayed you. They’ll lie, play victim, twist the story, and paint you as the problem just to protect the image they created. Some people would rather destroy your reputation than admit they were wrong. They’ll tell half the story because the full truth exposes them. They’ll gather sympathy from people who never heard your side, hoping their lies stick before the truth catches up.
here's something nobody knows about me... if i'm going through the hardest time of my life, u probably won't hear about it. i'll disappear, work harder, cry in private, figure it out somehow, and come back acting like it was just another Tuesday. i've always been better at surviving than speaking.
I put myself in a fucked up situation, and I regret that shit every day. I can’t change what happened, but I can learn from it and make sure I never put myself in that position again.
As you get older you start to cherish the idea of “surface level” a little more. Not everyone you meet needs to experience every layer of you. Having surface level relationships with people helps you master boundaries without the emotional side of things.
Overextending yourself for people and making their emergencies your own emergency doesn’t make you more loved; it makes you more used. Trust me, they’d be fine without you. Being kind is powerful. Being kind without boundaries is exhausting.
Behind closed doors, I've done a lot for people... real help, real support, no cameras, no credit. So when my name come up, don't just run with whatever story sound good... tell that part too!! Tell how I showed up when I didn't have to. Tell how I poured into people who couldn't pour back. Tell how I stayed solid, even when it wasn't returned Y'all be quick to speak on the surface, but quiet about what really went on. Keep it real all the way or don't say my name at all. ✅
I don't hate socializing. I just love being home. Where it's quiet. Safe. Soft. No small talk. No noise. No pretending to be someone I'm not. Just me. Reading. Thinking. Listening to music. Staring at the wall. Watching old movies. Being bored. And feeling life deeply. Some people call it boring. To me, it's where I finally hear myself again.
🙂↔️🤏🏾🤌🏾🤏🏾Once you fck with a ngga that works hard , don’t knock yo… PH balance off , don’t disrespect you , don’t put his hands on you , don’t be out here fcking btches , don’t be in everybody’s dm ect.. you’ll never go back to the sht you use to put up with i promise 🤏🏾🤌🏾🤏🏾🤌🏾🤏🏾🙂↔️
You females gotta understand YOU CAN NOT MAKE A MF MAD that is not BOTHERED BY YOU‼️ You can try to throw all the salt/shade in the world at her. When a REAL ONE Don’t let a PRESSED female interrupt her PEACE you become the BOTHERED female & You actually look stupid tryin’ to seek attention from a person that don’t care🤷🏽♀️‼️💯 LEARN LIFE. 🐐