Actually She Can👠👠

Online Trainer, Keynote Speaker, Suicide Intervention Tutor, Menopause Coach, Podcast Host - Actually, She Can!

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Did I mention I’ve written a book?! 🤣 AND it has a 5⭐️ review now too! So very excited 😆 #CIBYHL

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@Sam_Knight18 It really is. We left my Mum there in January and my Dad in March. Beautiful when all the spring flowers are out too and so very peaceful x

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@Sam_Knight18 You might like the Taphouse too - 61 taps of craft beers - worth a visit 🍻

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Making a difference, one conversation at a time 🧡

#wspd #worldsuicidepreventionday #domesticviolence #domesticabuse #shiningalightonsuicide #greatermanchester

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Fear of failure is a significant contributor to burnout, often driving people to push themselves relentlessly in an attempt to meet expectations or avoid letting others down. We need to stop seeing ‘rest’ as a reward and recognise how essential it is to enable you to survive.

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My forest walk today. One of the 10,000 tiny acorns will germinate and grow into a tree - we shouldn’t underestimate the impact of one tiny thing and in a world that is 24/7 switched on, we can find space for tiny moments of calm that can make all the difference #selfcaresunday

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Week 5 on the Radical Self-Care for Wiped-Out Women programme and it might be my favourite one to teach too 😉

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Fed up of feeling tired all the time? Exhausted? Stressed? Mood all over the place? Hormones rampaging? Join me online for a free webinar Tuesday 5th August at 12.30pm https://t.co/dX2Gu55sEU

[Bruce Bowman @boswelltoday]

As Sandie Peggie returns to the witness stand for the final time, I’ve taken a moment to gather some final thoughts. My last update from the tribunal will be out this afternoon - but in the meantime, here is one I prepared earlier.

The Case That Spoke Too Plainly🧱

I won’t be tweeting the closing submissions. There is little left to say that the tribunal has not, in one way or another, already exposed.

For nearly a year I’ve followed the Peggie case - day by day, witness by witness - as a nurse of thirty years stood accused of harassment for objecting to a male colleague in the women’s changing room. She did not shout. She did not use slurs. She simply said: you are not a woman. You should not be here. For that, she was suspended. Investigated. Humiliated. And made to wait while the institution responsible for that humiliation told the public it was “balancing rights.”

What emerged, over weeks of hearings and months of delay, was not a case of misconduct, but a case of institutional self-deception. One by one, managers, HR advisors, equality officers took the stand. What they revealed - unintentionally, but unmistakably - was that @nhsfife had no serious grasp of what its policies were doing to women like Sandie Peggie. No one had assessed the risks. No one had thought about menstruation, trauma, dignity, consent. The witnesses admitted as much. “We didn’t ask,” they said. “We followed guidance.” “There was no policy.” “It wasn’t our role.”

That was the pattern. Not bad people; timid ones. Bureaucrats trained to prioritise reputational safety over moral courage. Time and again, they deferred upwards: to Once for Scotland, to Equality and Diversity, to how the other boards were doing it. They could not say why Peggie was suspended - only that it had seemed “safer” than not suspending her. They could not say what she’d done wrong - only that she hadn’t accepted a man in the women’s space.

Her view - that sex is real and that sex matters - was not protected in practice. It was pathologised. NHS Fife could not bring itself to call it what the law now requires: a legitimate belief.

And it wasn’t just the managers. The junior doctor at the heart of this, Dr. Upton, sat in the witness box and calmly described himself as a woman, entitled to strip and change beside female colleagues. He had, he told the court, taken notes on Sandie Peggie from day one. He knew she was uncomfortable. He did not leave. He stayed. And when she said “I don’t believe you belong here,” he called it a hate incident.

He wasn’t asked to compromise. She was told to move wards.

Covering this case has clarified something I already suspected. The erosion of women’s boundaries is not always driven by ideology. Often, it is driven by indifference - by men who want access and by organisations too cowardly to say no. The effect, of course, is the same.

I’ve reported what happened. I’ve watched the language bend and buckle under the strain of unspoken truths. I’ve listened to professionals - nurses, consultants, executives - swallow their instincts because their job demands belief in something they know isn’t true; and I’ve watched what happens when one woman refuses.

There is nothing exceptional about Sandie Peggie. That is precisely the point. She is what any of us might become, in any workplace, when we say aloud what everyone sees.

The case has been widely reported; the spending scrutinised; the reputations preserved. What’s missing is the story that matters - the one that lives in the transcripts, in the contradictions, in the silences. That’s where the truth sits - in the record, not the narrative.

This was a landmark case. Not because the law changed, but because the lie did not hold.

We’ll see what the judgment says. But I already know what I’ve seen. And if you’ve followed this thread - I hope you agree.

Thank you to everyone who has read, shared, and followed along. I’m extremely grateful for your company.🙏

Good luck, Sandie @nicoleepeggiee

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@jk_rowling I hope you’re nowhere near those bears! 🐻 🫣

[Yemen Starving @yemenstarvi]

Shame on us 🇵🇸💔

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Sad to recognise that @JaneyGodley won’t be there to warmly welcome @realDonaldTrump but delighted to see many others reacting to his arrival - go Scotland!! Can’t decide whether weaselheaded f*cknugget or touped f*cktrumpet is my fave welcome so far?!

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Fed up of feeling tired all the time? Exhausted? Stressed? Mood all over the place? Hormones rampaging? Join me online for a free webinar Tuesday 5th August at 12.30pm https://t.co/dX2Gu55sEU

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@CardRocker0007 @jk_rowling Lorry please! Red lorry, yellow lorry - and repeat!

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@LorrieAnn25 @Gaynotqueer1 😆

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I had the privilege of supporting DV support volunteers last week, helping them support clients and talk confidently about suicide prevention. This is such an important skill for anyone in this arena https://t.co/TapxTkbLWN

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Merseyrail are a sponsor, so my photo is on the wall in stations … hope nobody draws a moustache on 🥸- voting closes tomorrow, please can you give me a quick click …

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Thank you ☺️ 🧡

#MWOTY #MerseysideWomenOfTheYear

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I’d love your vote please folks?

Votes reset daily, closing 1st June.

I’m pretty sure the other Finalists doing stuff for kids will be the winners, but I’ll give it my best shot all the same 🧡

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If you get a moment I’d be grateful if you can vote for my wife, former Mayoress of Halton, who has been nominated for an award :- https://t.co/0idBClskLZ

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My inner critic, Gloria, is in overdrive right now … she also hates me asking for votes … https://t.co/7LYd5V9mgE