My girlfriend once told me something during an argument that I never forgot.
She said, “You always tell me to talk to you when something hurts me, but whenever I do, you defend your intentions instead of trying to understand why I was hurt.”
“You don’t have to agree with every feeling I have. But you should care enough to acknowledge it. Your intentions may explain why you did something, but they don’t erase the impact it had on me.”
Then she said something that stayed with me: