Everything you want is on the other side of taking a shot, asking again, and not giving a fuck about what other people think until you get what you want.
You just have to fucking try.
The Price of Becoming Your Own Man:
There is a peculiar form of freedom that a man discovers when he finally accepts that nobody is coming to organise his life for him, nobody is arriving with a detailed explanation of how he should realise his potential, nobody is under any obligation to recognise the magnitude of his ambitions, and no amount of resentment towards this arrangement is going to improve his circumstances. I think this is one of the most important psychological thresholds a young man can cross, because until he does his life remains quietly suspended in expectation of assistance that may never arrive. He is waiting for permission, waiting for encouragement, waiting for circumstances to improve, waiting for somebody sufficiently important to recognise that there is something exceptional about him, all the while, the days are passing, his youth is being spent, and the world continues moving without the slightest consideration for the magnificent life he believes himself capable of creating, but has never enforced the necessary accountability and discipline to move towards
The real beginning of independence is often quite an unremarkable event. There is no ceremonial announcement, no extraordinary revelation, no gathering of people to congratulate him for accepting responsibility for his future. Perhaps he is sitting in a small bedroom looking at his finances, perhaps he has just returned from another disappointing interview, perhaps an opportunity he had invested enormous hope in has collapsed, or perhaps he has simply grown tired of hearing himself explain why his life is not yet what he wants it to be. Whatever the circumstances, something finally changes in the relationship between the man and his own existence. He begins to understand that the distance between his present condition and his desired future belongs principally to him to traverse, and that waiting for someone else to assume responsibility for this distance is itself is hopeless
It is difficult to overstate how much psychological energy becomes available when a man stops expecting the world to become more accommodating before he becomes more capable, you may come to experience dismay at the way the world works, you may come to resent the positions God has put you in, you may start to internally flail at all the clearly unjust structures in front of you and around you, and you may become painfully aware of the objectively high demands placed on men to live a fantastic life, with no concern for if you ever get there, and if you dont, your life will simply slowly and quietly bleed out into nothingness, and the universe wont care, once you accept this, there is a power in recognising you and your mind and your work ethic will be the only things you can ever truly control
There is much concealed dependence in the way people ordinarily approach ambition, they are willing to work hard provided their efforts are noticed, willing to take risks provided somebody reassures them of the outcome, willing to endure discomfort provided the suffering is acknowledged, willing to remain disciplined provided progress arrives quickly enough to justify the sacrifice
Their relationship with achievement is therefore governed by a collection of conditions which remain almost entirely outside their control. When the encouragement disappears, so does their enthusiasm. When progress becomes difficult to measure, their commitment begins to deteriorate
When somebody questions their ability, the project itself suddenly feels less worthwhile. They are not necessarily lacking intelligence, ability or opportunity; they have simply never developed the internal authority required to continue in the absence of external reinforcement, which is a trait and capacity deeply needed to build anything of value for yourself in this life
Acquiring independence gradually withdraws these conditions from the arrangement, you must learn to work without applause, to preserve standards when nobody is watching, and to find satisfaction in the correctness of his conduct even when the consequences have not yet become visible
The man who can rely upon himself acquires a kind of internal wealth which cannot be adequately represented by his bank account. He knows that disappointment is unpleasant but survivable, that loneliness can be endured without being romanticised, and that difficult circumstances frequently become less intimidating when they are approached as practical problems rather than personal insults, he begins to see his attention and his drive to be his main defining capacities and begins to get to work, embodying the spirit of the self actualised man he wishes to become, he begins to recover an extraordinary amount of sovereignty over his own attention in order to make a sincere attempt to find his limits and prove the society that is so hellbent on limiting his expansion wrong
Sovereignty is purchased at considerable expense, there will be evenings when he watches other people enjoying comforts he cannot yet afford, mornings when his work appears to have produced nothing, periods when the people closest to him cannot understand why he continues pursuing something which has offered so little visible rewards, he understands that difficulty was always part of the undertaking, and that his responsibility is to respond intelligently to the information it provides and the world does not have a single care for him or his ambitions, if he crashes and burns it will mean nothing to anyone in the grand scheme and thats simultaneously liberating and terrifying completely
There is nothing particularly glamorous about the process of becoming something immense, independence is not always a man standing triumphantly on a mountain, looking down upon the civilisation he has conquered. Sometimes it is answering an uncomfortable email instead of avoiding it. Sometimes it is declining an invitation because the money would be better preserved, other times its battling through fatigue, finding edges, believing in yourself when no one does and enduring pain for a better future
Yet it's these apparently insignificant moments are where the architecture of freedom is constructed, the beauty is the man becomes less vulnerable to his impulses, less governed by the expectations of his immediate environment, less dependent upon favourable circumstances, and increasingly capable of choosing a course of action because he believes it is correct rather than because it happens to be comfortable, and overtime he has drilled the correct emotional orientation towards life so many times he begins to acquire achievement and gravitas through his new found spinal alignment towards what is noble and good as he matures enough to be able to apply self governance toward high aims across time
Independence, properly understood, does not make a man incapable of needing others. It makes him less inclined to burden them with responsibilities that belong to him. The purpose of becoming independent is not to arrive at some miserable condition of emotional invulnerability where nothing can touch you and nobody can matter. It is to become sufficiently established within yourself that love becomes an expression of freedom rather than desperation, friendship becomes an opportunity for mutual enrichment rather than psychological maintenance, and success becomes something you can enjoy without requiring it to compensate for every disappointment you experienced along the way.
Indeed, I think one of the most remarkable signs that a man has genuinely made progress is how little interest he eventually has in proving that he no longer needs the people who once doubted him. There may have been a time when their recognition mattered enormously, when he imagined returning to familiar places with expensive possessions and extraordinary achievements simply to demonstrate how profoundly they had underestimated him, but as his life begins to acquire genuine substance, the fantasy slowly loses its attraction. He has work he enjoys, people he loves, places he wants to visit, ideas he wants to develop, responsibilities he has willingly accepted, his future has become sufficiently interesting that he no longer feels compelled to organise it around settling accounts with his past; the past may still provide him with fire, but he has overcome it
The man initially pursues independence because he wishes to escape the authority of his circumstances, only to discover that the deepest form of independence is freedom from the compulsive need to prove his escape to anybody else
He can enter a beautiful room without needing its occupants to know what he has accomplished. He can speak softly because his convictions do not require theatrical reinforcement. He can admire wealth without worshipping it, enjoy luxury without depending upon it, and experience the companionship of exceptional people without becoming frightened by the possibility of their departure
There is a tremendous dignity in the man who can look at the circumstances of his life, acknowledge everything that remains imperfect, and nevertheless recognise that the responsibility and opportunity to improve them still belong to him, because he has come to understand that the ability to govern his own conduct, preserve his own spirit and participate consciously in the construction of his future is already a magnificent form of freedom.
He may never control the world. He may never receive all the recognition he deserves but he can become a man whose life is no longer perpetually awaiting permission to begin, there are few achievements more consequential than that
The independent man who is self motivated, courageous, has fire in his heart, is cunning, consistent and epistemically curious as well as impossible to discourage or exhaust is genuinely dangerous, he is capable of extraordinary things as he has built the foundation of order within, now the universe must respond, men are anxious to improve their circumstances but are unwilling to improve themselves
There is a certain type of person everywhere now, especially online.
He consumes endless information every day: philosophy, psychology, productivity, spirituality, neuroscience, business, self-improvement, history.
He knows a little about everything and deeply experiences almost nothing.
His entire identity becomes built around understanding instead of living.
He watches videos about confidence instead of speaking confidently. Reads about discipline instead of becoming disciplined. Studies relationships instead of learning how to love. Consumes motivational content instead of taking action.
He feels intelligent because he is constantly mentally stimulated. But stimulation is not transformation.
Most of the time, knowledge becomes emotional protection. Reality is unpredictable. Reality humiliates. Reality exposes weakness. Books and ideas do not.
Inside information, he can continue imagining himself as intelligent, deep, insightful, different from ordinary people. So he remains trapped in preparation.
He constantly feels as if he is "becoming" someone, while his real life remains strangely untouched. He develops sophisticated language for problems he never confronts directly. He can explain human behavior beautifully while being unable to handle ordinary discomfort, rejection, uncertainty, loneliness, or risk.
He slowly turns life into observation instead of participation.
The internet rewards this personality heavily. He receives validation for sounding aware rather than becoming capable.
Eventually, he begins confusing self-analysis with growth and information with wisdom.
But beneath the intelligence usually exists the same thing: fear. Fear of failure. Fear of embarrassment. Fear of reality answering back.
Because action destroys fantasy. The moment he truly acts, he can no longer hide inside potential.
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Israeli things... as always 😅
Writer: Samuel
Rough operating day:
9 year old girl from Gaza. Shoulder reconstruction. Both parents killed. Cared for by uncle.
5 year old boy from Gaza. Right lower limb amputation. For revision of stump so he can start fitting a prosthesis.
Medical student from Lebanon, early twenties. Blast Injury to face with loss of both eyes. For reconstruction of facial bones and eyelids so he can have glass eyes fitted.
To top the day off, message from lawyers: High Court Appeal case by GMC, court date set for end of January 2027.
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