As a man, you need to understand;
1. A man without money has no voice. Fix your finances before you try to fix the world.
2. Once you go through your worst time alone, you really donโt care who stays in your life anymore.
3. People respect you more if you are in great physical shape.
4. Have a clean haircut twice a month. Dress well on every occasion. Smell nice. Talk slow. Smile when necessary. Everyone you meet will respect you.
5. Be private, accept the loneliness, and fix your life. No one is coming to save you. Your life is 100% your responsibility.
And that's maturity.
1) love needs action => not just words
2) trust needs proof => consistency over time not paranoia (no surveillance or tests)
3) sorry needs change => accountability not excuses
My therapist told me this, and it changed my life:
โYou're not healing to be able to handle trauma, pain, anxiety, depression. You're used to those. You're healing to be able to handle joy and to accept happiness back into your life.โ
Accept the present with grace, release the past into silence, and have faith in the gentle unfolding of the future.
Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart