Neurotypicals: I do the hardest thing first.
ADHDers: I do the 4 easiest things first to warm up, then a 5th easy thing, then I look at the hard thing, then I make a coffee, then it is 3pm.
No one is more delusional than an ADHDer making plans, because we are CONVINCED that tomorrow-us will somehow have no moods, needs, distractions, or insatiable desire to fuck around.
Dating now is hilarious. one minute you’re talking every day, staying up late getting to know each other, making plans and thinking, “wait, i actually like this person.”
then suddenly you’re wondering if they got kidnapped. nope. they’re alive. they just stopped texting you.
You can be someone's favorite distraction, their comfort zone, and their emotional safety net, yet still not be the person they're willing to commit to. They will heal on your time, build on your energy, and then choose someone else to give their future to.